Friday, February 11, 2011

Can This Marriage be Saved?



ROSEMARY: I had a rough day yesterday, starting at 6:30am when the phone kept ringing and no matter how many times I said hello and then hung up, it just started again. Things went downhill from there.

My plan was to go home and treat myself to a glass (or two) of red wine and - drum roll - NOT WORK. I'd had enough. I wanted to vege.

I would not think about my word count, my protagonist's motivation or whether or not I should go to Ohio. I made a fire, poured the vino and reached for the remote. And that's where my blog post begins.

My husband and I agree on most things - politics, money, sex, other people's lousy driving habits, how other people's dogs are wretched curs but ours is practically perfect in every way - but watching Jim Lehrer is not my idea of vege-ing out. He's great. I love him. And it is something of a miracle that he looks exactly the same as he did 20 years ago - but yesterday the world was too much with me and Jim was no match for - Twelve Monkeys.



Yes, the bizarro, almost incomprehensible Bruce Willis/Brad Pitt film about time travel, deranged scientists, a virus that may wipe out mankind as we know it and a group of slackers/psychos/geniuses who call thmselves The Army of Twelve Monkeys.
I needed Twelve Monkeys. I needed Bruce Willis to save the world. My husband did not agree. He does admit to having watched Moonlighting once or twice, but that was only because he thought Cybill Shepherd was cute.

















It could have been another classic, thought-provoking movie...say...
Faster, Pussycat, Kill, Kill! but as far as I know that wasn't on television and I needed the quick fix.
It wouldn't have been the same if I had had to find a dvd and put it in. I was after instant gratification.

So my Bruce went downstairs and watched the world going to hell in a handbasket and I stayed upstairs and watched the other Bruce save it.


How do you and your significant others vege out?

















30 comments:

Tammy Kaehler said...

My husband and I vege out in different ways too. I need trash TV so I can turn my brain off--yet simultaneously be reassured that no matter how overwhelmed I feel about my life, some people are much more delusional (i.e., Say Yes to the Dress, What Not to Wear). My husband likes to dig in the dirt in our garden. He admits to not relaxing well. I, however, am a champ.

Rhonda Lane said...

First, allow me to applaud your choices in entertainment. Twelve Monkeys showed us that Brad Pitt wasn't just s pretty face. And Faster Pussycat ("Do your job, squirrel!") is fine OMG-did-they-do-THAT? fun, too. FWIW, I saw Faster Pussycat Christmas cards one year in Hot Topic.

What do we do to chill out? My husband likes to watch Ted talks online and "How It's Made." I like Stargate re-runs, both SG-1 and Atlantis.

E. B. Davis said...

We don't get HBO, so now we're watching the Sopranos. There are entire seasons on disc without commercials, making it even better. It's a great way to while away very cold weekends with a fire going in the woodstove!

Julia Spencer-Fleming said...

We now get streaming Netflix, thus combining the selection of dvds with the sheer laziness of not even having to get off the sofa to stick a disc in the slot.

Ross and I usually veg out with the kids, watching action/sf/musicals. Ross always falls asleep within the first half hour, so he doesn't know the endings of most movies. We didn't tell him what happens in Gran Torino. It would upset him.

Brenda B. said...

When I need to turn my brain off and zone out I either watch the Golf Channel (which drives my partner nuts) or HGTV.

There's nothing like losing yourself in the deep question of which place the House Hunter couple is going to choose. Or whether a dingy, cluttered bungalow can be transformed by the Designed to Sell crew on a tight deadline with a shoestring budget.

BTW, Rosemary, as an inveterate reader of obituaries, I saw in the Globe this week that Varla, the head go-go girl/killer in Faster, Pussycat! Kill! Kill! died just this week. Tura Satana. She was only 72.

Brenda B. in Maine

Hank Phillippi Ryan said...

OH, Julia, Jonathan and I are the opposite. HE watched Gran Torino, but I would never put myself through that emotional wringer, and he knew it. I'm always asking him to tell me the end of movies, because I ALWAYS fall asleep.

Plus, he and I kind of--negotiate the veg-out viewing. We can always agree on thrillers and mysteries, so that works.

Other times, we'll swap, say, a viewing of "You've Got Mail" (or,even, What Not to Wear. You and me, Tammy) for me...followed by a cowboy or war movie for him. During which I usually pull out the laptop and tune out. But at least we're sitting together.

It is very very difficult for me to watch TV and do nothing unless I'm really into it or really tired. I almost can't, which is probably another blog.

Yes, saw that, Brenda B.

Melissa Robbins said...

My husband plays his PS3 or watches the Soup. I watch one of those crime shows on TV or read a book in bed.

Hank Phillippi Ryan said...

And RO? Sorry you had a rough day...

Elizabeth D said...

My husband watches crime shows -- true crime and things like Criminal Minds (his current obsession), Law and Order, NCIS. . . I knit, drink red wine, and read (usually no more than 2 of those things at once) while ignoring the TV. But when Criminal Minds gets especially graphic, I need to leave the room.

Sue Ann Jaffarian said...

Since my current significant other(s) are cats and they haven't learned to manipulate the clicker yet, I am in control of my domain. When I veg I like to watch cooking competition shows like Top Chef and Chopped. Or catch up on my fav shows like Burn Notice, Dexter, or The Good Wife via On Demand. Thank goodness for On Demand!!

Rosemary Harris said...

Rhonda...I will need to find those Faster Pussycat cards. Sorry to read that Varla is no longer with us, although through the magic of film(?) the tough-talking go-go girl will live on.

Last year I was addicted to babyowlcam as my vege out of choice. I blame Nikki B for that! Let's hope I don't have a relapse this year.

Maryann said...

Chuck tells me gardening relaxes him...okay. But in the winter, it's self-improvement books and coming up with plans to reorganize the basement. I usually come home and if I want to relax, I put in an old movie...last time out was Night Train to Munich. Before that, The Lady Vanishes. I also can go through a season of British comedy or drama in an evening or two...their seasons are usually only 6-12 episodes long. I just finished Season 2 of Foyle's War and have a crush on Michael Kitchen. However, my guilty pleasure and go to guy is Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy. :o)

Hank Phillippi Ryan said...

Morse. Morse.

Hallie Ephron said...

For me anything on Masterpiece Mystery. But that's a pleasure, not a veg. Vegging is back episodes of CSI. For my husband it's doing puzzles--crossword, sudoku, chess. During which he **does not like to be interrupted**!

Roberta Isleib said...

Ro, we love Jim Lehrer in my house. We worry when he's got a night off.

For TV viewing we can both agree on, it's FRIDAY NIGHT LIGHTS. I've tried to emphasize to everyone I know how excellent this show is. The last episodes will be shown this spring--oh we're so so sad!

The hub will not watch You've Got Mail one more time. Nor Julie and Julia or other retreaded chick flicks. I did manage to get him to go with me to the King of Pastry--a documentary about pastry chefs competing for the Master of Pastry award given by the French government. (I think that's right.) We had to go out for dessert after--you can't watch all that baking and then go right to bed.

Pat Marinelli said...

Frank watches WWII documentries, while I like NCIS and will veg out watching reruns.

He won't watch any of the chick flicks but he did watch Julie and Julia becasue he has an interest in cooking these days.

The only thing I can thing of that we watch together is "Bitch Kitchen"--which I haven't decided it its funny or I'm offened--and David Rocco's Dolce Vita. Oh wait, he paints for we watch Bob Ross...or I watch Bob Rossa and Frank immediately falls asleep. He wakes up the minute the painting is complete.

Rhys Bowen said...

I would happily watch PBS British drama over and over--Morse YES Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy Yes, yes, yes.
John can't comprehend that anyone would want to watch something they've seen before.
Thank God for TVs around the house. One TV and we'd have been divorced long ago...

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