tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post1104020992641305792..comments2024-03-28T19:36:39.783-04:00Comments on Jungle Red Writers: Advice on reinventing yourself from Kate White... who ought to knowJungle Red Writershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-68656056420992806622019-05-09T08:53:39.181-04:002019-05-09T08:53:39.181-04:00Kate, thank you and I am happy that I got there to...Kate, thank you and I am happy that I got there too. I cannot imagine what it was like working at Cosmo magazine. Thank you for sharing a glimpse of what it is like working at Cosmo magazine. Bummer about the car service. Grateful that you survived and got home in one piece.<br /><br />DianaBibliophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07764234701385787238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-7142831917120899482019-05-09T08:52:43.140-04:002019-05-09T08:52:43.140-04:00I think it was about doing TWO full time jobs--whe...I think it was about doing TWO full time jobs--when we talked, you had left Cosmo--but I didn't know that! I thought you were STLLL juggling two full-times, and I thought if you could, I could. I did it for 8 years, too. But then-the waters got too choppy and impossible to navigate successfully. xooxo LOve the fewer plates--though I bet you agree--sometimes I look back and think: HOW did I do that?? And other times--I'm twice as busy now as then. All good! You are still my role model. Hank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-39124068652280070182019-05-09T07:15:00.337-04:002019-05-09T07:15:00.337-04:00Kathy, thanks so much, I'm thrilled my book ma...Kathy, thanks so much, I'm thrilled my book made it to your must-read list. <br />I'm in my 60's, too, and feel the same way you do. Not sure what the future holds or what I will be when I grow up. But love how game you are!!! See you hopefully at the next Bouchercon<br />Kate Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967738949927304925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-27987889251008818902019-05-09T07:12:45.505-04:002019-05-09T07:12:45.505-04:00Pat, as your husband found,reinvention can take so...Pat, as your husband found,reinvention can take some experimentation. I love this line from Barbara Corcoran: "You don't know what your passion is until you walk into it." I found that to be true. Go out into the world, take classes,hear lectures, volunteer, visit galleries, etc etc. Let yourself walk into itKate Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967738949927304925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-39174384420230044512019-05-09T07:10:05.427-04:002019-05-09T07:10:05.427-04:00Julia, wow. That certainly is fiction meeting real...Julia, wow. That certainly is fiction meeting real life. And so sorry about your loss. Maybe it really does help to think of our lives as a series of acts. It helps us see meaning and us lets us know there is more to come. Kate Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967738949927304925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-35139338259298478252019-05-09T07:07:12.011-04:002019-05-09T07:07:12.011-04:00thank you, Jenn. Much appreciated.thank you, Jenn. Much appreciated.Kate Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967738949927304925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-81085105435430639202019-05-09T07:06:50.269-04:002019-05-09T07:06:50.269-04:00Diana, sorry for the late reply. I have a hysteric...Diana, sorry for the late reply. I have a hysterical story of heading to a reading yesterday at 3 and not returning home until midnight. It involves the car service not only getting lost but breaking down on the way back. Oy...<br />But I wanted to address your comment because what you say is so valuable. When we reinvent, it's a key time to yes, just as you say, find the authentic you if you aren't here yet. As much as I loved doing press in my Cosmo job, I always felt I had to represent the company and the magazine, and there was a certain pressure. Sometimes it didn't feel like me to be on that way. My new role feels very much like me. So happy you got there, tooKate Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967738949927304925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-14346215463263074002019-05-08T19:57:47.305-04:002019-05-08T19:57:47.305-04:00No dust! I just do what works for me. I'm in a...No dust! I just do what works for me. I'm in awe of both you, Kate, and Hallie. We all have our slice of the pie. ;^)Edith Maxwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01388006370860482509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-19172865781621516462019-05-08T15:35:18.885-04:002019-05-08T15:35:18.885-04:00Don't be small. See above. Whittling down my...Don't be small. See above. Whittling down my own dreams to fit someone else's life trajectory was part of being married, but when my husband died, I vowed never again. You don't have to wait for tragedy. Go big!Gigi Norwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00495357787099352860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-35140466625809219772019-05-08T15:32:32.691-04:002019-05-08T15:32:32.691-04:00Just be sure to write yourself an outstanding fina...Just be sure to write yourself an outstanding final act, and make it a comedy! We all want a happy ending.Gigi Norwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00495357787099352860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-54533496133149378342019-05-08T15:29:23.310-04:002019-05-08T15:29:23.310-04:00I love the 4Bs!I love the 4Bs!Gigi Norwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00495357787099352860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-34352521045211307872019-05-08T14:24:15.585-04:002019-05-08T14:24:15.585-04:00Jungle Reds never fails to bring me great authors ...Jungle Reds never fails to bring me great authors and books to add to my TBR list, and it so often coincides with me having just become aware of an author or a book on social media. Such a Perfect Wife is showing up on must-read lists from so many sources, and your appearance, Kate, here on Jungle Reds seals the deal for me. I don't know how I have missed your Bailey Weggins series, but I'm onto it now. <br /><br />I am always amazed when someone reinvents herself/himself. I guess I've done some changing which could be considered minor reinventing, and I certainly feel like I've changed greatly inside as a person from my 20s to my 60s. I think attending a high school reunion in 2012 brought some positive changes, as I reconnected with some people and then made a point of reconnecting with some others. I call that my year of reconnection and have tried to now be that friend who doesn't lose touch. And, 2013 was a big year for me, as I attended my first Bouchercon and started focusing my reading blog on mystery and crime, becoming a reviewer and reader with newfound passion. However, still at 65, I sometimes wonder what I'm going to be when I grow up.Kathy Reelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17004247271452356577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-78984639820687174652019-05-08T14:08:36.253-04:002019-05-08T14:08:36.253-04:00The plot for this book sounds so good! As for rein...The plot for this book sounds so good! As for reinventing, ? My husband found himself out of a job in his late 60s. He didn't believe in ageism when he started looking for work but I think he finally figured it out. People were happy for his advice and expertise as long as it was free. Consulting work never did pan out. He has now accepted he is officially retired and is filling his hours as a Red Cross volunteer. He loves it. As for me, I don't know what the hell I am doing. I took the boring career path that put me in an office all day so someone was always in town for our son while my husband was free to travel on business. I've always bobbed along in his wake, giving up jobs to move to a new place for his work. Now we're situated to be able to move to wherever I want (my choice!) and I'm having trouble narrowing it down. And finding the right house. And all sorts of other things. Reinventing? I don't know. I'm just trying to move forward and find a situation that will make me happy and not horrify my husband.Pat Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732230586783432052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-27796264886314963452019-05-08T13:41:13.998-04:002019-05-08T13:41:13.998-04:00I love your mind being the Drake Passage--I love your mind being the Drake Passage--Lucy Burdette aka Roberta Isleibhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04660402177299546055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-30664083943154057372019-05-08T13:39:56.000-04:002019-05-08T13:39:56.000-04:00fantastic Margaret, yay for you!fantastic Margaret, yay for you!Lucy Burdette aka Roberta Isleibhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04660402177299546055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-84943860705133755582019-05-08T13:38:45.930-04:002019-05-08T13:38:45.930-04:00I totally agree about studying your failures--or e...I totally agree about studying your failures--or even so-so reviews. I learn a lot if I'm willing to listen--and sort out what's nonsense:)Lucy Burdette aka Roberta Isleibhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04660402177299546055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-73254641121034008742019-05-08T13:36:21.337-04:002019-05-08T13:36:21.337-04:00I'm in a reinventing phase myself! It's fu...I'm in a reinventing phase myself! It's funny Kate mentions appraoching it as if it's a mystery. I was thinking about my life and realized it has a lot of the beats of women's fiction. Peripatetic childhood and education leading up to the first beat: meeting husband. Marriage home and family, leading up to the second beat: becoming a writer. Success as an author leading up to the big reversal of fortune: husband dies. Clearly, I'm in the forth act of a five-act novel.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553268569509053159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-4119984568712627872019-05-08T12:05:47.451-04:002019-05-08T12:05:47.451-04:00Hi Kate! What a fun post today. I suppose I've...Hi Kate! What a fun post today. I suppose I've reinvented myself a couple of times, the first in my twenties when I packed up and moved from Texas to Scotland to marry a man I'd only known for six weeks, the second in my mid-thirties when I decided to write a British crime novel (something no one thought I could do.) The crime writing turned out better than the marriage, but I regret neither. <br /><br />Your book sounds terrific, and love the cover!Deborah Crombiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16988750789088153601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-43888378841926284562019-05-08T11:57:19.344-04:002019-05-08T11:57:19.344-04:00Fantastic tagline! I am in. Congratulations on the...Fantastic tagline! I am in. Congratulations on the book release, Kate! I can't wait to read SUCH A PERFECT WIFE.Jenn McKinlayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13589365995413467367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-59543824183971122612019-05-08T11:55:31.522-04:002019-05-08T11:55:31.522-04:00Congrats, Margaret!!
Congrats, Margaret!!<br />Deborah Crombiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16988750789088153601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-62561236553098525552019-05-08T11:31:40.879-04:002019-05-08T11:31:40.879-04:00I love that! I was reminded of the writer who cre...I love that! I was reminded of the writer who created Mrs. Minivier and the author said he or she came up with the name from seeing a fashion ad?Bibliophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07764234701385787238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-20101833456655193582019-05-08T11:30:15.069-04:002019-05-08T11:30:15.069-04:00Hi Kate! I met you at Malice 28. Welcome to Jung...Hi Kate! I met you at Malice 28. Welcome to Jungle Reds and congratulations on your new novel. Interesting question about "reinvention". In my life, I feel that it took a while to find my AUTHENTIC self, which I already knew when I was a kid, then during my teens and twenties, I was trying to be something that did not fit my personality. In addition to being my authentic self, I feel it is also important to be the best version of myself too.<br /><br />And I love your quote about "What Ifs" in the purple bubble caption. Love the name of your heroine, Bailey. How did you pick the name Bailey?<br /><br />DianaBibliophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07764234701385787238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-42433836080285793832019-05-08T11:06:20.697-04:002019-05-08T11:06:20.697-04:00the best advice I've read is to go out into th...the best advice I've read is to go out into the world and bump into your next passion!Kate Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967738949927304925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-36759220254859434082019-05-08T10:51:29.077-04:002019-05-08T10:51:29.077-04:00I haven't reinvented myself. But I'm alwa...I haven't reinvented myself. But I'm always looking for ways to reinvent myself as a mid-40's retiree. Sadly, I haven't figured out how to do that yet. :)Mark Bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11567392254011373198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-88071762994512215612019-05-08T10:32:47.839-04:002019-05-08T10:32:47.839-04:00Hey, I'm finally on as you can see. The Firefo...Hey, I'm finally on as you can see. The Firefox tip did the trick. I had a friend who had a friend named Bailey and I just loved it. Then I just came up with Weggins. I think I meant Wiggins, which is a real name. Apparently there are no people with a last name of Weggins. But hey, that's part of the fun of writing, right?Kate Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17967738949927304925noreply@blogger.com