tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post360906225823607949..comments2024-03-29T02:43:11.575-04:00Comments on Jungle Red Writers: A Matter of Trust--What would you do?Jungle Red Writershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-2352097389576665142014-04-15T16:10:50.898-04:002014-04-15T16:10:50.898-04:00Interesting question about trust. If I ran into H...Interesting question about trust. If I ran into Hank or one of the contributors of this blog and you asked me to hold a cup for you, I would say Yes, since I kind of know who you are. Unless I have a cold and was worried that I would sneeze into your cup, I would have to say No.<br /><br />I wonder if I have the kind of face that people trust. I was living abroad (Oxford, England) when I was walking near Boots. This young mother asked me if I could watch her baby in the pram while she went inside Boots quickly. I was surprised that she trusted me with her baby since she did not know me.<br /><br />I watched the baby for five minutes then she came back and said thank you. <br /><br />On the other hand, I would trust someone only if I knew that person really well and Knew that person was reliable. <br /><br />- hmdtAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-80304064103508422112014-04-11T21:24:08.586-04:002014-04-11T21:24:08.586-04:00Hank--Thank you SO MUCH for hosting me! This was t...Hank--Thank you SO MUCH for hosting me! This was tons of fun!<br /><br />I like to think I've resolved some of my trust issues, at least with the people close to me, but the next time I'm on a flight I'm going to pay particular attention to those around me. Might even ask someone to hold my drink as an "experiment."<br /><br />Thanks to everyone for the comments!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07754229648422848542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-18112725093690365982014-04-11T08:01:20.580-04:002014-04-11T08:01:20.580-04:00Terrific interview, Diane! Trust is a big issue in...Terrific interview, Diane! Trust is a big issue in my novels for the reason you pointed out - trusting someone makes you vulnerable. It's a scary thing to trust.<br />And that is so funny, Hank. I think I would laugh if I asked someone to hold my latte and they said, "I don't think so."<br />I sooo wouldn't be worried about someone doing something to my drink and I wonder why she was so snippy about NOT holding it. I guess you never know why someone is crabby or what problems or concerns they have at that moment. But such a little thing to ask - she could've at least reached for it and rolled her eyes or something. lolKristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01724127668983231150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-23676914471082521302014-04-10T13:09:14.062-04:002014-04-10T13:09:14.062-04:00Debs! I missed your alliteration— "... the po...Debs! I missed your alliteration— "... the poodle didn't hold a candle to Kendall"! xoxoxoMaureen Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03499876353651763590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-36079556861001779442014-04-10T10:30:11.072-04:002014-04-10T10:30:11.072-04:00Hallie, Reine is right about service dogs. I knew ...Hallie, Reine is right about service dogs. I knew someone who had a dog (mutt) who could tell if he was about to have a seizure. That is a service dog, even if it doesn't LOOK like one. Ellen Kozaknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-87584209158927445892014-04-10T02:22:47.022-04:002014-04-10T02:22:47.022-04:00Oh, Debs... you are so dear! The photo of you hugg...Oh, Debs... you are so dear! The photo of you hugging Kendall—as he is reaching out to plant a big wet sloppy kiss on your cheek—is now the background on my iPhone and iPad. All I have to do is click on my phone, and I have to smile, no matter what. Thank you! xoxoxo<br /><br />PS: I knew what you meant about the poodle. I can't comment. :-)<br /><br />In case anyone is seriously interested... any dog that can be trained to a very high standard of reliable behavior can be a service dog. Some breeds have traits that make them better candidates to assist humans. Most dogs do not make the grade. Wonderful pets do not usually make good service dogs. Some of these lovely pets, who cannot assist themselves out of a gunny sack, give well-behaved and properly trained assistance dogs a bad reputation. So if you are considering getting a service dog don't risk getting one of the very deserving dogs from the shelter to train yourself. It probably won't work out well. Then what do you do? Get a professionally trained dog. There are scholarships and grants available for qualified applicants.Maureen Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03499876353651763590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-11129931709747921002014-04-10T01:29:35.629-04:002014-04-10T01:29:35.629-04:00Reine, I was thinking of Kendall, and this was a g...Reine, I was thinking of Kendall, and this was a gorgeous dog. Just unusual--have never seen a Standard Poodle in a service vest, much less a fully groomed one. But why not? They are in the top half dozen of best working dogs (along with Goldens and GSDs:-)) Although even this girl in all her poms and bows didn't hold a candle to Kendall!<br /><br />(It's late--I made a nice alliteration!)Deborah Crombiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16988750789088153601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-28373332336080719482014-04-09T23:19:00.407-04:002014-04-09T23:19:00.407-04:00Thank you, Lora! See you all tomorrow--and we will...Thank you, Lora! See you all tomorrow--and we will announce the winner of Diane's book! Love you, dear Diane! xoooHank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-69124053324010677272014-04-09T23:04:40.937-04:002014-04-09T23:04:40.937-04:00Diane, I'd trust you as far as I could throw y...Diane, I'd trust you as far as I could throw you but then, I know where your parents live! ( or I used to!) which is not as creepy as it sounds since Diane and I went to high school together. :) <br /><br />I get scammed all the time. I give money to the guy in the Publix parking lot, and the lady under the overpass. I am super suspicious of airport people, though. But I would have held your latte, Hank. Because really, if it was a bomb you'd have been blown up, too. And Deb, I would have gotten up for you. That's just courtesy; not trust! Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02833218449658357107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-56182015039682466542014-04-09T22:07:34.560-04:002014-04-09T22:07:34.560-04:00Joan--as always, the voice of love and optimisim.
...Joan--as always, the voice of love and optimisim.<br /><br />xooHank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-58196403625814913392014-04-09T22:05:43.587-04:002014-04-09T22:05:43.587-04:00Laura Benedict--oh, that is TERRIFYING! (so wonde...Laura Benedict--oh, that is TERRIFYING! (so wonderful to see you..come do a guest blog, okay?)Hank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-22755494747007669992014-04-09T21:28:32.153-04:002014-04-09T21:28:32.153-04:00Have I ever had my trust betrayed? Sadly, yes . ....Have I ever had my trust betrayed? Sadly, yes . . . someone that I believed was a good friend turned out not to be one at all, and proved it in the most dreadful way possible. It troubled me for a long time. <br />It’s probably not a better way to be, but these days I am far less trusting and much more cynical than I used to be. <br /><br />Hank, I would definitely hold your latte; I would probably hold a drink for anyone who asked and I would get up for someone to move past me if I was sitting in an aisle seat on an airplane [or a bus or a train]. <br />However, it saddens me to say that I would not ask a stranger to hold my baby or my coffee because there’s a part of me that thinks somehow the answer should be different, that we ought to be able to trust others to help us without worrying about our drink being spiked or our child being hurt or stolen away. Still, experience has proven that trust should not be so easily given --- it’s a truly sad commentary on the state of the world . . . .<br /><br />That said, it’s amazing how many truly wonderful people there are that somehow crop up in your life at the moment you need them the most and proceed to simply make your day shine . . . . <br />Joan Emersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06810313925049108163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-12383847123106569872014-04-09T20:54:52.175-04:002014-04-09T20:54:52.175-04:00Trust - OMG I have been burned so many times, you...Trust - OMG I have been burned so many times, you would think I'd learn by now to not trust people until I really get to know them<br /><br />Having someone near and dear break trust is the worst.<br /><br />I have never understood the "forgive and forget" thing when it comes to someone you love or thought loved you majorly breaks the trust you had in them.<br /><br />I have a very hard time forgetting when someone hurts me deeply and forgiving, also a toughie<br /><br />I was brought up that you do for everyone - I'm with Ramona on the Catholic upbringing and maybe the era I grew up in, you always help others<br /><br />In Hank's situation I would have held the drink and stood up<br /><br />As for asking someone to watch my bags, never occurred to me, just always tugged them alone if I was traveling alone<br /><br />I never had anyone ask me to watch their bag(s) , maybe be cause I was always buried in a book and didn't look approachable <br /><br />trusting a stranger with a child NEVER<br /><br />I love dogs, so probably would watch the dog if it didn't look like it would bite my hand off, while it's human went for a refill, but I would not ask someone to watch my pooch, all my dogs rank up their as a child when it comes to trusting other<br /><br />Great topic<br /><br />Rosie123https://www.blogger.com/profile/11528374618939863598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-10985694736522443342014-04-09T20:46:52.612-04:002014-04-09T20:46:52.612-04:00Wow Hank - can't believe she wouldn't hold...Wow Hank - can't believe she wouldn't hold your coffee while you put your bag up or stand up to let you get to your seat - rude !<br />I always got up to let someone in or out of their seat if I was in the way<br /><br />Hi Diane and Welcome<br /><br />Look forward to reading THAT TOUCH OF INK<br /><br />I love Doris Day movies - TCM ran her movies on her BD last week - she was in a few I didn't care for they didn't seem to "fit" her personality.Rosie123https://www.blogger.com/profile/11528374618939863598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-35293346509725119252014-04-09T19:33:41.869-04:002014-04-09T19:33:41.869-04:00Since I can't tell the difference between a hu...Since I can't tell the difference between a hungry person and anyone else asking for money, I give.<br /><br />Debs... service dogs have all kinds of owners. God knows Kendall does his best to keep me from acting on my histrionic impulses, but I still like him to wear turquoise booties with matching collar and silver studs. Hahahahahahahah!!!Maureen Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03499876353651763590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-69157103098577234792014-04-09T19:03:55.496-04:002014-04-09T19:03:55.496-04:00I am slow to trust, it must be earned. Probably du...I am slow to trust, it must be earned. Probably due to my trust has been betrayed in the past. While I would never ask a stranger to watch my stuff at the airport I have asked if they would hold my seat for me while I run to the ladies room. Most say yes and I have returned the favor.Mohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11712287890895445671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-56015220802611373902014-04-09T18:53:31.529-04:002014-04-09T18:53:31.529-04:00Oh, I absolutely WANT to trust everyone! But just ...Oh, I absolutely WANT to trust everyone! But just yesterday I was at lunch and could not find my phone that had just been sitting on the table--and I became convinced that the woman at the next table who had recently left had walked off with it. Of course, when I had my husband call it, it was in a deep purse pocket!<br /><br />Airports always make me worry now. I always tote everything with me to the bathroom, and never leave a drink unattended. (Roofies! Arsenic! Toilet Bowl Cleaner!) But unlike wise Virginia, I always agree to watch others' stuff.<br /><br />My most ridiculous experience: Traveling with my 12 month old daughter (in 1993), hustling through the airport, carrying her, her car seat, my purse, her diaper bag. A twenty-something guy starts walking beside me, chatting. Then he tells me that I look like I could use some help, and would I like him to carry... my daughter!Laura Benedicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474185786017084327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-1502374340315436552014-04-09T18:18:32.345-04:002014-04-09T18:18:32.345-04:00Hank, you need to report in if all of a sudden all...Hank, you need to report in if all of a sudden all kinds of strangers start asking you to hold their lattes!Diane Vallerehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14128179558072158743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-32906522019851581262014-04-09T17:14:11.959-04:002014-04-09T17:14:11.959-04:00Thank you for all the latte holding. I appreciate ...Thank you for all the latte holding. I appreciate it.<br /><br />And truly--I mean--I'd OFFER to hold someone's latte. I have, in fact.Hank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-47209849933065911142014-04-09T16:37:46.357-04:002014-04-09T16:37:46.357-04:00Hallie, I am shocked that you were taken by that s...Hallie, I am shocked that you were taken by that scam...I've had that tried on me at least 10 times with slight variations. They must use it because it works. I am usually very gullible and trusting, but this one doesn't work on me. <br /><br />I will, however, hold Hanks's latte or watch little old lady's bags any time.Pat Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342215657313031640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-90439527940531829852014-04-09T15:43:35.363-04:002014-04-09T15:43:35.363-04:00I would never make someone climb over me on a trai...I would never make someone climb over me on a train or plane! This reminds me that someone INSISTED that I get up and let her family sit together in a train seat - and I was walking with a cane at the time! She said "oh, sorry" but she still wanted me to move - which required a lot of painful gathering together of bags, etc. If thoughts could kill...Deb Romanonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-71557181300428980312014-04-09T15:37:10.097-04:002014-04-09T15:37:10.097-04:00I would have held your latte, Hank. You were in a ...I would have held your latte, Hank. You were in a logical situation to ask for help . You weren't asking for anything that might have put the woman at risk.<br /><br />I had a great flight from Denmark once, because I asked two rowdy guys from Iceland to please not ask the flight attendant to move me to another seat. They said they would never do that, even though I must be asking for it. They shared their vodka, and we had a great time swapping sea stories. I think they cleaned theirs up a little..Maureen Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03499876353651763590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-28217066359200085122014-04-09T15:02:47.989-04:002014-04-09T15:02:47.989-04:00I'm still stuck on the climb over thing too. H...I'm still stuck on the climb over thing too. How weird! <br /><br />Kendel-You crack me up! I always think of Alias and how Sydney Bristow would infiltrate different places by pretending to be what they expected. And, as we all know, Alias was 100% real. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07754229648422848542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-18264976450211332652014-04-09T14:53:40.296-04:002014-04-09T14:53:40.296-04:00Kendel--so funny! Is that because, as crime fictio...Kendel--so funny! Is that because, as crime fiction authors, we always play out every scene to the most dramatic ending possible?Hank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-79355844556751208262014-04-09T14:36:54.986-04:002014-04-09T14:36:54.986-04:00I read that culturally as Americans our bias is to...I read that culturally as Americans our bias is to believe what people tell us. If they say they're from Connecticut, or an account, or went to NYU, we believe until we're given hints or evidence not to.<br /><br />Other cultures have a more cautious, prove-it type of approach to strangers.Barb Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16470220932617188498noreply@blogger.com