tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post7522727444438655574..comments2024-03-28T13:46:02.547-04:00Comments on Jungle Red Writers: ShouldsJungle Red Writershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comBlogger79125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-21229383183638034572018-01-08T23:33:51.992-05:002018-01-08T23:33:51.992-05:00Rick, I fully support your preference for reading ...Rick, I fully support your preference for reading mysteries. And those other genres. But mostly mysteries. ;)Ingrid Thofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04063912686011336076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-28137485419697648382018-01-08T22:59:15.492-05:002018-01-08T22:59:15.492-05:00Hahaha! Ingrid, you have made my day, even though...Hahaha! Ingrid, you have made my day, even though it's night!Kathy Reelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17004247271452356577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-61661232814536152202018-01-08T21:05:13.296-05:002018-01-08T21:05:13.296-05:00It's those books, the ones on the Great Books ...It's those books, the ones on the Great Books lists and the Important Literature lists. Sometimes I think I SHOULD read The Mill On The Floss, or War and Peace, or Don Quixote, or Ulysses, or One Hundred Years of Solitude. And dozens and dozens more. The Classics, you know. I guess I'd be a better human if I read and absorbed them. But I don't want to! I want to read mysteries, and some science fiction and fantasy and non-fiction about interesting people.<br /><br />I looked up a list of 100 "great books". I've read about a third of them, many in high school or college, when I had no choice (Moby Dick). That's enough for me, despite that nagging Should bout reading more of them.Rick Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07978136287154214297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-65328341574657054852018-01-08T19:56:59.817-05:002018-01-08T19:56:59.817-05:00That's a great point, Nick!That's a great point, Nick!Deborah Crombiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16988750789088153601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-34701722638841384092018-01-08T19:48:06.873-05:002018-01-08T19:48:06.873-05:00Hello Nick Petrie! Thanks for chiming in! Can...Hello Nick Petrie! Thanks for chiming in! Can't wait to have you join us tomorrow!Ingrid Thofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04063912686011336076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-45962550382754396872018-01-08T19:41:29.659-05:002018-01-08T19:41:29.659-05:00I think so. Even before the studies came out. I me...I think so. Even before the studies came out. I mean, real is always better than fake, right? Karen in Ohiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13846039203123720312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-68180443536511105232018-01-08T19:03:30.708-05:002018-01-08T19:03:30.708-05:00What a great discussion! I don't think it'...What a great discussion! I don't think it's just women -- I'm totally a "should"-er. But I do try hard to acknowledge the voice, because if I don't really hear it, then it's just this background noise of discontent and character criticisms. Once you hear it for what it is -- your inner critic, or maybe your least favorite parent's voice -- it's easier to disregard. Nick Petriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00340603193973807759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-92061532029420667612018-01-08T18:34:07.896-05:002018-01-08T18:34:07.896-05:00You're not behind, Kathy, you're ahead! Y...You're not behind, Kathy, you're ahead! You've already got your tree up for the holiday season!Ingrid Thofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04063912686011336076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-20183031784074488902018-01-08T18:10:00.439-05:002018-01-08T18:10:00.439-05:00I know I am posting so late today. I "should...I know I am posting so late today. I "should" have gotten online earlier, but I had to finish reading a book for a review that I "should" have posted today, and there are so many books coming out just this week that I "should" post review for right away. I "should" finish taking down the Christmas decorations. Yes, the tree is still up. Judge away. I hate that I am starting the year with so many "shoulds" and feel like I'm already behind. Stress is not fun, and stressing over things that aren't life and death or can actually be done all in good time is stupid. So, I'm stressed and stupid. I did take the pug back to my daughter's yesterday, after keeping the dog for ten days, and my husband is back in Kansas, so I hope to start getting caught up now that I'm here alone. At least I know I "should" get caught up now. OK, time for me to quit.Kathy Reelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17004247271452356577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-469931586326787412018-01-08T17:47:53.982-05:002018-01-08T17:47:53.982-05:00Lucy you are so right. Men must have a different ...Lucy you are so right. Men must have a different connection between eyes and brain. My husband cannot see what he's looking for in the fridge when it is front and centre....we call it a 'man look' here in Oz and all my friends agree they just don't SEE..... the bags of salt that need to go into the pool (that's one of my should's for today), the box in the pool room that I mumble about as I step around and he steps over....another should on my list for today.... The fact that they don't see means an awful lots of should's for us women!!<br />OneEnglishLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04747109933032515147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-15153701917691374622018-01-08T16:31:44.159-05:002018-01-08T16:31:44.159-05:00Or the pee on the floor? LolOr the pee on the floor? LolAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14187856103924954287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-75547666786802623512018-01-08T16:19:03.360-05:002018-01-08T16:19:03.360-05:00Pat D, I'm so sorry you're having to deal ...Pat D, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with such difficult have to's right now. This aging thing is really crummy! Taking some breaks is a good strategy for keeping your blood pressure in check and giving yourself a breather. Take care of yourself!Ingrid Thofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04063912686011336076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-77531371308502415242018-01-08T15:18:22.617-05:002018-01-08T15:18:22.617-05:00I volunteered as a youth basketball coach for 25 y...I volunteered as a youth basketball coach for 25 years. Believe me, I'm never volunteering for anything ever again. I've done my time.Jay Robertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11409350742317719903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-50456341316684511042018-01-08T15:15:27.868-05:002018-01-08T15:15:27.868-05:00with bacon I hope.
And if there was, I still shou...with bacon I hope.<br /><br />And if there was, I still shouldn't complete a lot of "The Shoulds" because all those burgers can't be good for me.<br /><br />But I do like the way you think.Jay Robertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11409350742317719903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-3138486470067688332018-01-08T15:02:11.720-05:002018-01-08T15:02:11.720-05:00(I reread all the above and have no idea why the a...(I reread all the above and have no idea why the audio corrects happened. Be glad I'm not a writer.)<br /><br />The boxes have been moved from the sun room to the bottom of the stairs. Enjoy, Julie. Next things are those pesky PT exercise. Either that or the torture chamber in the dungeon-I-mean-basement. Untenable<br /> <br />Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14187856103924954287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-62283710122739542362018-01-08T14:31:22.623-05:002018-01-08T14:31:22.623-05:00Try, try again. My posts keep going to outer space...Try, try again. My posts keep going to outer space. I have so many have to's in my life right now I can completely ignore the shoulds. And I just flat don't care. I'm afraid my attitude is either don't care or angry right now. Not too much in between. But I'm working on it. Have to!Pat Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732230586783432052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-63805791911901535372018-01-08T14:17:53.254-05:002018-01-08T14:17:53.254-05:00Ah, this post hits excruciatingly close to the bon...Ah, this post hits excruciatingly close to the bone. I dance the Should Dance far too often. This year perhaps I'll relax a little. I really should . . . Brenda Buchananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14161539130987122737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-62243648992450110652018-01-08T14:02:49.129-05:002018-01-08T14:02:49.129-05:00Leslie, lol. My hubby is nearsighted but still doe...Leslie, lol. My hubby is nearsighted but still doesn't see the pea on the floor!!Deborah Crombiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16988750789088153601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-17350472119322373332018-01-08T13:59:18.677-05:002018-01-08T13:59:18.677-05:00But we have all been proven right, haven't we?...But we have all been proven right, haven't we? I thought the current wisdom was that butter is actually healthier than margarine anyway!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08292993485984273172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-65361164058640023462018-01-08T13:30:21.056-05:002018-01-08T13:30:21.056-05:00Lucy said of her dear one: "he can step right...Lucy said of her dear one: "he can step right over a mess--he literally doesn't see it." I heard a piece on NPR a few years ago that said this is a gender thing, and it's biological, not sociological. Because men evolved to be hunters and danger-spotters, exploring the vistas, while women evolved as gatherers and child tenders staying close to home -- I am grossly over-simplifying, of course, repeating the gist of the story -- eyes evolved to fit those tasks. Mr. Right can spot a pheasant at 150 yards but he can't see a pea on the kitchen floor, and I'm the reverse. It really could be biological -- or just that I'm severely nearsighted!Leslie Budewitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11942314846112875042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-73107959003271388862018-01-08T13:29:20.136-05:002018-01-08T13:29:20.136-05:00I've managed to ignore a lot of shoulds in my ...I've managed to ignore a lot of shoulds in my life, mainly because I have a lot of have to's. Right now the have to's are overwhelming. Mom was released from the hospital Friday afternoon and is over at the nursing/rehab facility on campus where she lives. She isn't back mentally 100% yet. At some point I have to make her acknowledge she cannot live by herself anymore. And that is going to be a battle. I always said I wouldn't make her do something she didn't want to but her choice will be assisted living or paying someone to be in her apartment 24 hours a day. I am hoping the social services people will present that as her options when the time comes. As for shoulds, I should do a heck of a lot of things around the house. But my current (angry) attitude is screw it, I'm going to sit down and read!Pat Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12732230586783432052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-73946700105771943632018-01-08T13:20:05.625-05:002018-01-08T13:20:05.625-05:00Getting that hamster out of your head is very moti...Getting that hamster out of your head is very motivating, Christine!Ingrid Thofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04063912686011336076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-56677352496554061992018-01-08T13:18:57.073-05:002018-01-08T13:18:57.073-05:00I think you're right, Debs. If you're les...I think you're right, Debs. If you're less concerned with making other people happy, the shoulds seem to diminish.<br /><br />Coralee is definitely on to something with the coulds. I'm going to try some rephrasing and see how that goes...Ingrid Thofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04063912686011336076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-92011724309275528082018-01-08T13:07:14.099-05:002018-01-08T13:07:14.099-05:00I had a funny thing happen on Saturday -- I have a...I had a funny thing happen on Saturday -- I have a dear friend who lives in Ohio -- our children went to nursery school together and she moved to Ohio more than 35 years ago. I have seen her once in a while -- one of my daughters went to Oberlin. Last year her husband died, and I think we both felt very emotionally close to one another. But , , , <br />We arranged a phone date for Saturday -- and then made it a Face Time date. The first thing she said was, "Do you hate me for not keeping in touch?" and I said the same thing. We are all so hard on ourselves. I have sent her notes and cards -- she prefers the telephone. She doesn't do notes and cards, and I don't do the phone. We are simply different. We love each other -- we care about each other -- why do we overlay feeling guilty on that??? But I have to say, we had a great time and many laughs doing Face Time.Denise Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02790883493798517829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-41049741789149612952018-01-08T12:44:43.851-05:002018-01-08T12:44:43.851-05:00I like the idea of "could" instead of &q...I like the idea of "could" instead of "should" but am not sure I can change all that internal dialogue this late in life. But, maybe, if I think of that hamster...Chris Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10882020122700920436noreply@blogger.com