tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post8623121773741315743..comments2024-03-29T09:03:34.140-04:00Comments on Jungle Red Writers: The Etiquette of Social NetworkingJungle Red Writershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-73951222795041931882012-04-13T09:13:18.367-04:002012-04-13T09:13:18.367-04:00Reine,
Great to have you back!
Sorry you missed J...Reine,<br />Great to have you back!<br /><br />Sorry you missed Jodi -Jan Broganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11323983086318138814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-34242553121571260042012-04-12T23:10:13.708-04:002012-04-12T23:10:13.708-04:00Linda... oh yes on the eye contact cultural thingy...Linda... oh yes on the eye contact cultural thingy. It feels awful being "stared at" as well. Intrusive?<br /><br />Jan- really sorry I missed the last two days here.Maureen Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03499876353651763590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-41128117511643398372012-04-12T23:08:32.248-04:002012-04-12T23:08:32.248-04:00LISA ALBER is having computer problems..sigh. She ...LISA ALBER is having computer problems..sigh. She asked me to post this--because she says, it's the polite thing to do! <br /><br />"Oooh, that’s great! Thanks for providing a great example. That makes total sense. Advanced planning seems to be the key!"Hank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-34328292782887067122012-04-12T23:03:04.615-04:002012-04-12T23:03:04.615-04:00I know I am too late. I just want to say that I lo...I know I am too late. I just want to say that I love the "catch the ball" metaphor. I practiced a little today on the paratransit van-- not so intimidating. Hand shaking is hard for me, but I do give it a try. People seem to understand, but I like to do what is generally expected.Maureen Harringtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03499876353651763590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-8402864689163385922012-04-12T22:42:13.595-04:002012-04-12T22:42:13.595-04:00Thanks Jodi for being a wonderful guest!Thanks Jodi for being a wonderful guest!Jungle Red Writershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-7324700110198043102012-04-12T19:38:56.951-04:002012-04-12T19:38:56.951-04:00Thank you to everyone for your comments and questi...Thank you to everyone for your comments and questions! if there is anything else, please do feel free to ask me directly on Mannersmith.com. <br /><br />Jan ~ It was a pleasure! ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-80511568647644553412012-04-12T19:37:42.245-04:002012-04-12T19:37:42.245-04:00Linda ~ When I work with International clients, I ...Linda ~ When I work with International clients, I speak at length about body language, eye contact and asking questions. So many cultures see asking questions as rude (it implies the speaker did not explain him/herself well enough). But here in the USA, to not ask questions - especially in a job interview - will be held against you. It is not that one is right and one is wrong, it is just culturally specific and we should all be aware of the differences. Warmly ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-82914109390107975782012-04-12T18:21:39.376-04:002012-04-12T18:21:39.376-04:00Jodi, thanks for the triangle trick. It's funn...Jodi, thanks for the triangle trick. It's funny. among many cultures, especially indigenous ones, sustained direct eye contact is rude or threatening. Among the Anglo-European cultures, to avoid direct eye contact is shifty, a sign of dishonesty and deceit.<br /><br />Good post today, Jan!Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-19372932235057769782012-04-12T18:17:34.552-04:002012-04-12T18:17:34.552-04:00Thanks for the Triangle Trick. I'm shy, too. I...Thanks for the Triangle Trick. I'm shy, too. I've had my train of thought jump the tracks if eye contact locks "just right." Especially if I'm tired.Rhonda Lanehttp://rhondalane.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-46672158264973710992012-04-12T16:45:09.011-04:002012-04-12T16:45:09.011-04:00Lisa ~ Great questions. First and foremost you sh...Lisa ~ Great questions. First and foremost you should know that I am a shy-gal. As in, did not even go to the prom shy. I could write a ton for shy people (oh wait! I did!). In my most recent book, all of chapter 11 is devoted to exactly this.<br />The biggest hint is to have a plan in advance. Think about what you would say to someone you admire. I find that specifics are helpful. So instead of crazy-fan "I so LOVE your books!" try something such as "I was so sure the butler did it, you had me totally fooled until he had a cup of tea in chapter 13, where did your inspiration for that twist come from?" <br />Then, after you have chit-chatted for a moment or two longer, get out! Leave the conversation before you withdraw and become a bobble-head. "I am so glad we were able to speak. Thank you" closing handshake and move along. Does that help? ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-24893355049156017182012-04-12T16:17:57.183-04:002012-04-12T16:17:57.183-04:00Yes, Yes, Lisa, perfect question!Yes, Yes, Lisa, perfect question!Hank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-60769007966819008862012-04-12T16:13:40.962-04:002012-04-12T16:13:40.962-04:00I'm late to the conversation, and what a good ...I'm late to the conversation, and what a good conversation it is!<br /><br />One of my problems is that I go blank--a deer in the headlights kind of thing. This is especially true at writers conferences when talking to well-known writers. I have a hard time relating to these authors as regular people. I become a gibbering fangirl...What to do about that?<br /><br />Also, I'm such an introvert that after awhile my brain shuts off. I nod and smile, but find I have nothing to say in response. Any hints especially tailored for introverts?<br /><br />Thanks!Lisa Alberhttp://www.lisaalber.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-57796259124369375992012-04-12T15:59:13.592-04:002012-04-12T15:59:13.592-04:00Rosemary ~ Sam Wall trained his employees to smile...Rosemary ~ Sam Wall trained his employees to smile first. This is great advice for a conference...not so much when you are walking in an unfamiliar city alone after dark. Warmly ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-48290756961751963582012-04-12T15:58:06.025-04:002012-04-12T15:58:06.025-04:00Jan ~ Loved that a student followed up with you AN...Jan ~ Loved that a student followed up with you AND that you were able to help. Fabulous! ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-28082123594692285132012-04-12T15:57:02.364-04:002012-04-12T15:57:02.364-04:00Karen,
You are right on track, nametags always on ...Karen,<br />You are right on track, nametags always on the right. Our eyes track from our hand, to their hand, up the line of the arm, to the shoulder (nametag) and then the face. And I do speak very frankly with men about where they should and should not look. Of course, if a woman is wearing a uber tight, low cut top, then she is advertising and he can glance. If she is not dressed like a hooker, then his eyes should be up. Warmly ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-82142030642898463412012-04-12T13:46:25.783-04:002012-04-12T13:46:25.783-04:00Lots of good tips! I'm at a conference now and...Lots of good tips! I'm at a conference now and it's interesting to see just how many people smile back if you yourself are smiling!Rosemary Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08033747422699443024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-41070154896368839482012-04-12T13:35:56.771-04:002012-04-12T13:35:56.771-04:00I forgot to mention Jodi that one of the students ...I forgot to mention Jodi that one of the students that I met at the event, followed your FOLLOW UP advice/rules, and contacted me by email afterward. I rewarded her by giving her three leads on who to contact for a journalism job.<br /><br />(hope they work out) <br /><br />~janJungle Red Writershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-82109097880789654572012-04-12T13:27:27.511-04:002012-04-12T13:27:27.511-04:00I loved the part at the BU event, where Jodi warne...I loved the part at the BU event, where Jodi warned never leave someone saying: Oh excuse me, I have to go the bar - or they might ask you to get them a drink at the bar and then, not only have you not moved on, you've become a waitress! <br /><br />~jan <br /><br />Also, if you end by saying "nice speaking to you," instead of "nice meeting you," you avoid the potential faux pas of saying this when you've already met them once and forgotten it.Jungle Red Writershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-20631301591648731452012-04-12T13:17:53.002-04:002012-04-12T13:17:53.002-04:00I was taught to wear my nametag (unless it's h...I was taught to wear my nametag (unless it's hanging in the middle) on the right, so when shaking hands the right arm is extended towards the person being greeted, and that shoulder also advances. That way, one's name is more prominent. <br /><br />I also make sure my name is VERY legible, and that the nametag is nowhere near my breasts, especially if the group is more predominately male. I detest having someone lean over to peer at my boobs on the pretext of trying to see my name. This evinces much (usually mental) eye-rolling on my part.<br /><br />Someone needs to teach men to look at some different kind of "triangle". Yes, we need to be gender neutral, but there are, after all, two major genders, and they are majorly different. :-)Karen in Ohionoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-55084618405567504272012-04-12T12:45:13.776-04:002012-04-12T12:45:13.776-04:00OH, Jodi! Brilliant! Thank you...
And thanks, too...OH, Jodi! Brilliant! Thank you...<br /><br />And thanks, too, for the triangle secret.<br /><br />(Jan--:-) I think you're so correct about how others see us...it would probaby be quite a revelation to find out!)Hank Phillippi Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17420701704169428286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-12404639375936175612012-04-12T12:41:17.513-04:002012-04-12T12:41:17.513-04:00Linda ~ Yes, eye contact is VERY culturally specif...Linda ~ Yes, eye contact is VERY culturally specific. I teach the eye contact triangle (anywhere between the eyebrows and the middle of the upper lip). If you gaze in that triangle it looks like you are making eye contact without needing to stare into someone's pupils. Warmly ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-66585853717741877192012-04-12T12:39:42.644-04:002012-04-12T12:39:42.644-04:00Hank ~ So nice to hear from you! Yes, the exit li...Hank ~ So nice to hear from you! Yes, the exit line is just as important as the opening line. My pet peeve is "excuse me, there is someone over there I need to meet/see." How horrid! What a great way to make the person you are speaking with feel about 2 inches tall. Instead, a simple and sincere "I am so glad we had a chance to speak" works wonders. Warmly ~ JodiMannersmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951240772966492639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-58241979833255192692012-04-12T12:28:56.452-04:002012-04-12T12:28:56.452-04:00Nametag on the right? And here I thought it was s...Nametag on the right? And here I thought it was supposed to go on the left to be more easily seen! (And at cons with hanging tags, well, they can be a bit tricky to adjust ... .)<br /><br />Thanks for the great info, Jodi.Leslie Budewitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11942314846112875042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-20846250870070225082012-04-12T11:29:04.819-04:002012-04-12T11:29:04.819-04:00Don't fret, Jan! We love you, even if your pho...Don't fret, Jan! We love you, even if your phone's auto-correct doesn't.Linda Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11913741596693442469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-87087978068848183262012-04-12T11:14:38.202-04:002012-04-12T11:14:38.202-04:00THAT WAS PERSONNA and I SWEAR I typed it and it se...THAT WAS PERSONNA and I SWEAR I typed it and it self-corrected, but maybe I've been traumatized by my I-PHONE and am imagining it. (or giving myself excuses)Jungle Red Writershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.com