LUCY BURDETTE: last week Rhys had us talking about books. What we do when we have too many of them and how we make decisions about culling the herd. I’ve also done some “ridding out“ as my friend Yvonne would call it, of clothing and shoes. Already, I wish I could call a few things back that are long gone. We don’t have a lot of call to wear corduroy pants in Key West, but this winter we’re also going on a trip to a very cold portion of Europe. There was a pair of black wide wale corduroys that I hadn’t worn in years. They were ankle length, with a band around the bottom, almost a barrel shape. I wore them often, and I loved them, but I gave them away thinking I wouldn’t have opportunities to wear them again. But now that it’s too late to summon them back, I miss them!
I also regret recycling my overalls. (See the photo at the top of me with my friend Carolyn.) I was in my late 20s when I moved from Tennessee to Florida to start graduate school. I wore those overalls nonstop which no doubt struck others in the clinical psychology department as peculiar. As I advanced farther along in the program, wearing overalls was less appropriate, and I gave them away. But now I see fashionistas wearing overalls everywhere. I miss that pair!
I may have talked about this years ago, but I had a plastic bag of my favorite childhood stuffed animals. I collected cats that were covered with rabbit fur. They had names and lives and the games we played saw me and my sister through some unhappy times. In that bag were also several arms and legs from my mother’s Raggedy Ann dolls. Don’t know what happened to the other body parts! However, in Florida, my ex and I had a terrible infestation of roaches who ate the fur off of all those animals. I was finally talked into throwing them away. Now, the kicker…
Our local NPR station is soliciting people to bring unusual collections to their Audacious Live show and tell. They suggest things like a jar of cat whiskers—something unusual with meaning and a story behind it. I am positive that a baggie of bald stuffed animals and doll body parts would make a good conversation piece. However, they are gone and I’m filled with regrets.
How about you reds, any items that you disposed of but now regret? Or do you give things away and never look back? Do you have something 'special' you'd bring to that NPR show and tell?

A jar of cat whiskers? How would one even...?
ReplyDeleteI'm not good at disposing of things. I have a collection of international dolls, but it's not particularly audacious.
I also wish I still had my overalls! I also wish I hadn't given away my green thrift store wool coat. It was hip length and swingy with a big collar and big buttons in a forties kind of way.
I can totally picture that coat Edith. Sorry for your loss! i cannot imagine how the cat whiskers were collected:). Tbone occasionally loses a whisker, but not enough to make a collection!
DeleteLucy and Edith, great word choice with “Audacious”. IYKYK Elisabeth
DeleteLucy and Edith, Duluth Trading has an amazing selection of overalls.
DeleteI am just trying not to look back. Where would I even put them if I still had them?
ReplyDeleteAw, so sorry about the bag of kitties. That must have been a blow.
ReplyDeleteI'm good with giving most things away and simply hope they find a great home and are loved by their new owners, but...my collection of 1970s clothes. Oh, yes, not only were those Landlubber bells and peasant tops filled with memories, but the tops had a passing style redux a few years ago! Sigh.
You know they'll come back around too!:)
DeleteI hear stories of kids who collected comic books and baseball cards back in the 50's and their mom's threw them out or gave them away, only to find out they'd be worth a lot of money today. I tell my grandson to take care of his Pokemon cards because some already are worth a small fortune.
ReplyDeleteI have memories of a dress my mom made for me when I was about 6 or so. It was a red, yellow, green, blue flower print with little red heart shaped buttons.. I miss my Loden green coat and since the Preppy look was in fashion in my high school I loved the Villager dresses and sweaters. Even if I had kept them I definitely couldn't fit into them today.
What a cute photo Lucy - thanks for sharing it.
You're welcome! I wore a ton of Villager clothes too--our mother would take us to an outlet and we'd shop our hearts out before the school year started.
DeleteI loved my overalls--and my white painter pants (overall style without the bib). I had a pair of jeans with very thin stripes of different color embroidery down the front of the legs. I left them in a motel room in Seattle, sigh. I now get posts on FB about vintage sewing patterns and I have seen both the jumper that I made with the heart applique and the hotpants outfit I made to wear in high school (mine was lavender polyester) I don't really miss the clothes, but I remember them fondly.
ReplyDeletewould love to see the lavender hot pants Gillian!!
DeleteSo many, many things, Lucy, but there's no point in dwelling on what is gone. Best to just cherish the memories that 'stuff' gave us and hope that someone else is enjoying them now.
ReplyDeleteSo true, and what would we talk about here today? LOL
DeleteI have previously mentioned that the fellow who I live with added an extension to his already bigger than the house (land wise and square footage) garage to store all the stuff (that needs to go to the dump) from my sister’s house. (still sorting, and sorting and sorting). However along with the extension, he cleaned up his ‘work’ area (there are 3 sections – work area, things with wheels area (I have a set of shelves in there for garden equipment – hoses, flowerpots) and now the new storage spot. In his work area, he managed to really clean it up, and some things actually went to the dump. Still has shelves and shelves full of rusty screws and bent nails, “just in case”. He took off the ropes to the ceiling his ‘hydroplane’ which he made from plywood in the 1960’s resided. We moved it from house to house for nearly 50 years, he so far has never used it. Anyway, he finally decided to get rid of it, so it sat on the grass and he washed it and coddled it, and some fool said he wanted it. Jack said he would ‘hold it’ for him – he has not come back. The hydroplane has moved back in – I suggested a match! So did the 4 tires only good for the rims. So did the John Deere with no deck – we have a new one.
ReplyDeleteNow as I type this, he is taking the batteries out of the smoke detectors (we bought new ones yesterday and they have been installed). He put them back in the new batteries box – arggghhhh!
I have no regrets throwing things away (I may start with him…)
too funny Margo--you're teaching us a good lesson!
DeleteI had to think about how to answer your question, so I guess that’s a good sign That I’m fine with what I have disposed of.. My mother did throw away all of my Beatle magazines when I was away at college, and that has rankled me ever since. Grrr.
ReplyDeleteI'd be rankled too Hank!
DeleteWhich reminds me of all my 50's records, and 60's and 70's albums that I have no idea where they are - vinyl records have made a huge comeback. Sigh.
My mother threw away my paper doll collection…stretching from when I could use only stubbed nose scissors through at least 8th grade … included Betsy McCall dolls from McCall’s magazine…my freshman year in college. For the next 60 years, the words “Well, Mother, there were MY paper dolls” would bring any tense moment to giggles. Elisabeth
DeleteOh, Elizabeth! I feel your pain! Xxx
DeleteOh no, I'm sorry about the Beatles and the paper dolls! We just finished giving away our albums to a nephew who treasures them, so feel good about that...
DeleteAnd Roberta, NPR would not be in love with a bag of roach-eaten things. Truly. I think the imagination is much better than the potential reality in this case… :-) It’s like its your bag of Schrodinger’s cats – – it exists, but it doesn’t exist.
ReplyDeleteHank, having followed the host of the local NPR show Lucy mentions for many years, roach infestation would only heighten the interest. BTW the show and tell is live, not recorded program. Elisabeth
DeleteAudacious with Chion Wolf is an acclaimed public radio show and podcast produced by Connecticut Public (WNPR).
DeleteOh, that is hilarious! I am laughing! I get it… Bring on the roaches.
DeleteHank I think Elisabeth is right, my roach infested cats would have been a winner:). The odder the better
DeleteLucy, I still have a pair corduroy pants moved from CT to FL six years ago…and last worn 5 years ago when several solid days of 40 to 50 degrees with WIND them a necessity. Also made me wish the long underwear had not all gone to good will. Elisabeth
ReplyDeleteYou were smarter than I was!
DeleteOne regret was returning a pair of pants that fit me perfectly, which the company no longer produces. It has been very overwhelming for me getting rid of so much stuff that I accidentally returned something, which I loved. Live and learn, right?
ReplyDeleteThis was me, Diana.
DeleteI hate that Diana, when a company stops making something wonderful!
DeleteMy step mother gave away several dresses that I had stored in their house while I was living abroad. One was an LBD dress of my mother's that was definitely 1940's vintage. Another was a red velvet formal dress, floor length with princess seams.
ReplyDeleteI am sure that I've lost or misplaced tons of things, but honestly, I've kept more than I should and my closets are bulging. So, no tears here.
A good attitude Judy!!
DeleteSome of you might remember that I started working for Amazon in sept 2023 The deal was I could ask for things and keep them/ no charge for the thing or shipping. WELL! Here we are in Sept 2026. To date I have ordered 736 items, and reviewed 650. Do I have a warehouse? no. Do I have a big house? Also no. Does anyone want stuff??? probably not. So I now live inside a cardboard museum. Today I have 6 large Amazon boxes filled with stuff ready to go to Metropolitan Ministries. I order stuff now that I think others might need. Like Halloween costumes for children. It is a river of stuff, but no regrets for giving it up. (we do keep the candles) //Most of the clutter from my childhood has been donated to Amateur drama clubs to use as sets or for patterns for costumes. AND YET I AM STILL A HOARDER. sigh
ReplyDeleteInteresting Coralee, are all Amazon employees about to ask for and keep (no charge) things? Or is this your job to order and evaluate items? Sounds like a great deal!!
ReplyDeleteThe Vine Program was created in 2023. It was intended to find skilled reviewers, mostly sourced from GoodReads (where they found me). This is a non salaried position, but we do get to keep the stuff. After 6 mos we can do what we want with it. Amazon does not share the total of Vine Reviewers (estimates are between 10,000 - 20,000) in the US. You will not find me by name I use a pseudonym. We have some heavy duty statistics need to select a set number of items each review period and review a minimun of 90 % of the items. In addition a certain % of the reviews must be 'excellent'. The materials donated are taxed at fair market value.
DeleteAnd this is why I have been missing from this great group of readers. I am reviewing stuff.
Coralee, that's fascinating! It would be dangerous for me to have all that stuff coming in. Can you ask for books?
DeleteYes! Although the books tend to be study and practice guides. Right now I am reviewing the guide for the the massage exam. Really interesting way to get research into a modern worker. Also some translated religious material. all non fiction.
DeleteA number of years ago, my mother and I had to empty out the apartment of one of her sisters.
ReplyDeleteShe had lived with another aunt. Neither of them had ever married, but they had accumulated a life time of furniture, linen, clothing, etc
We were also under pressure because we had a deadline to meet so we couldn’t take a lot of time to reminisce. In many cases, it was difficult to find new homes for the items
In addition to everything else we had to go through there were drawers full of papers, greeting cards, invitations and other correspondence. Included in all this were passports, long expired but reflected the lives of these people, sometimes written in the language of the country they came from. Some of the letters were from other relatives. I remember one was from another aunt talking about her life where her husband was stationed at an army post down south.
We had so much to go through and were so anxious to clear out everything that we didn’t think about the value of all of this history. I didn’t really think about it at the time and I never talked to my mother about it, but now I regret the opportunity that was missed to preserve some of the history, not only my family, but also life in general particularly from the thirties, WWII and the period right afterwards.
Having been a reader of this blog and the writers who talk about the extensive research they do to find details about different time periods,, I know what a resource this material could have been..
I would look at those things now with a greater appreciation since it was from my own family.
Sounds so hard to look back on those choices now!
DeleteNope. No, regrets. But my favorite hobby is throwing stuff out/rehoming things so it's not really surprising. My mom is the exact opposite. I've held onto a broken folding table for 18 years for her because it was where she did her homework as a child and it was part of her inheritance when her sister passed. WHY?! I tried to fix it--I really did--but I couldn't so into the dumpster it went after I thanked it for its service. Don't tell mom.
ReplyDeleteLucy, that is such a cute picture of you in your overhauls, and I'm sorry about your precious stuffed kitties being destroyed. And, Hank, I can't imagine how upsetting it was for your mother to throw out your Beatles magazines.. My mother saved most everything, like stacks of Life magazines in the basement, all the birthday and Christmas and other greeting cards, old toys. I have a set of metal and plastic child dishes that I can't bring myself to get rid of, even though they are just sitting in a basket in a closet. My mother had already given us our dolls before she died. I have a huge tub of Barbies and Barbie related dolls and clothes ready to go to my daughter, who has actually said she wants them (a surprise because my daughter is like Jenn). However, daughter says she has no room to store them now. We're about to have another serious conversation about that. Lucy, you had your cats. I have my Beanie Babies, most notably the ones for Halloween and Christmas. I used to decorate inside my house quite a lot for Halloween. At some point, I will have to decide if I need to clear out those decorations. I haven't used them in a few years and not sure I will again. And, the dolls, besides the Barbies, include Chatty Cathy, Baby Chatty Cathy, a Cabbage Patch doll still in its package, a doll of the 50s complete with wardrobe and metal case that I bought from my sister, the Liddle Kiddle dolls (they are adorable), a Tiny Tears doll, and a Littlest Angel doll. These are all in their original boxes, except for the Liddle Kiddles. My daughter doesn't want these. What do I do with them? I'm so sentimental that they seem like pieces of me that I would be getting rid of. Oh, and I have to mention the Thumbelina doll from 1963 I have. I did have her box, but I'm not sure where it is now. The thing about Thumbelina is that she is not a pretty doll. My granddaughter didn't want any part of her because she thought she looked scary. But, I remember receiving her for Christmas, Thumbelina being under the tree Christmas morning in the good old days of being a child at Christmas. Can I just discard her, abandon her? You see my problem. Sentimentality rules my weeding, and that's so unproductive.
ReplyDeleteI can't immediately think of anything I've given away and want now, so that probably answers the question.
ReplyDeleteBeing away at college is dangerous! My mother got rid of all my Nancy Drew books-all bought with my own money over the years. Gak! And all of them written before they were "updated" in the sixties.
ReplyDeleteBeing sentimental and a collector of many things does not fare well when trying to thin out my basement. It's like a giant storage facility. But I love swapping out decor every season so I have lots of keepsakes. Right now I am enjoying my pumpkin collection I have acquired over the years which I am so fond of for many reasons...all wrapped around warm and wonderful memories. My Department 56 orange bisque pumpkins I purchased in 1984, my glossy cream Vietri pottery pumpkins and my funky cocoa color checked and striped McKenzie-Childs pumpkins are sharing space with a few sentimental Halloween decorations. Changing out decor four times a year plus Christmas means my cellar storage area is on overload. I can't possibly bring up every item for every season any longer; there is way too much "stuff". So now what I do is I have my niece and her children go "basement shopping" when they come over. I decide what I am willing to part with and they help me clean out the space by happily "rehoming" them in their house. I love the idea of passing along personal and special items while I am still occupying this planet and then seeing them displayed in another home with another generation. Last week my niece and two of her children left with Halloween and autumn decor which they then sent along photos to show me how they displayed them in their space. I was so pleased that some of the decorations took center stage at their dining room table where they...as they put it...happily enjoy looking at while they are having dinner. Marina is a young lady with an old and sentimental soul so she loves that I am passing along memories to her. Right now she is trying to replicate our garden we had when she was growing up; fortunately, I still have some of our garden ornaments I no longer have space for that are now enjoying a second life in her yard. A blissful way to thin out sentimental objects and still be able to visit them when I go to see her. :-)
ReplyDeleteBeing a rather sentimental person [and definitely a collector], I am definitely not good at getting rid of things. But I have never regretted it when I did dispose of something . . . .
ReplyDeleteFirst so sorry for the late input into the conversation. It has been a very LOOOOONG day!!!
ReplyDeleteLove the photo--sor adorable. As for keeping things, I do. But when you have a granddaughter who is. a thrift shopper along with all her friends...well you let it go. Maybe someday you see it in her closet again but she convinces me to LET IT GO...LET IT GO!!!
My son started the whisker collection which got lost in a move. He was so upset he wouldn't start a new one but I did. I have indoor only cats. Cats drop whiskers throughout their lives so 30 years on I have quite a healthy collection. My mother threw out items when I moved to NYC for college. These were all items precious to me. The most important one was a double wedding ring quilt from relatives in Virginia. I loved that quilt and had used it for 18 years. I started quilting when I was 23 and am still quilting. I just hope everything got a good home.
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