tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post738021411708810803..comments2024-03-28T19:36:39.783-04:00Comments on Jungle Red Writers: Miss-ing MannersJungle Red Writershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16646429819267618412noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-44758232028037005172009-09-22T10:06:08.102-04:002009-09-22T10:06:08.102-04:00I think, that like language, manners probably chan...I think, that like language, manners probably change and evolve with the culture, and not all of it is bad.<br /><br />But I think that's why books set in earlier years (like Rhys' books) are so appealing. We all yearn for that world of better behavior and a day when people actually suppressed a thought or two.Jan Broganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11323983086318138814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-86808926577767666832009-09-22T08:39:56.204-04:002009-09-22T08:39:56.204-04:00I blush to admit that I own a copy of Tiffany'...I blush to admit that I own a copy of Tiffany's Table Manners for Teenagers, and once won a contest on coordinating my china, silver and glassware (which actually paid $200!). Oh, and I have a copy of Emily Post, in case I want to match my footmen's uniforms to my napery (that's actually in there).<br /><br />There's a certain ambivalent arrogance in our current society: whatever we want to do, we can, but at the same time, nobody is supposed to notice or complain. I often wonder how the Japanese manage, with so much less space per person.Sheila Connollyhttp://www.sheilaconnolly.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-49752268599901805102009-09-21T19:13:44.858-04:002009-09-21T19:13:44.858-04:00I'm in shock over the toenails, although I use...I'm in shock over the toenails, although I used to see men cut their nails on the subway. Revolting. As it happens I just started to read Can't Wait to Get to Heaven by Fannie Flagg. I love her writing...don't know how I missed this one. Anyway there's a character who is constantly appalled by the bad behavior of the others around her, and the bad taste, and the bad aluminum siding...very funny. Very apropos.Rosemary Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08033747422699443024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-77654118802944467592009-09-21T18:54:58.363-04:002009-09-21T18:54:58.363-04:00I recall the days when one brought gifts to someon...I recall the days when one brought gifts to someone's house when they invited you to dinner, and you followed up with a written thank-you. And, a reciprocal invitation.<br /><br />Now, people can't be bothered to RSVP to invitations, much less say thanks afterward. That's just plain rude.Terry Odellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610682530545306687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-20316518367172845002009-09-21T15:56:56.300-04:002009-09-21T15:56:56.300-04:00The other day I watched someone clipping her toena...The other day I watched someone clipping her toenails on the subway. All together now: Eeeeww.<br /><br />Hey Pat! And "Always flush!" is sound advice throughout life.Hallie Ephronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04759439029582054503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-45847712399292313682009-09-21T15:16:40.466-04:002009-09-21T15:16:40.466-04:00Hi Pat! it's a treat to see you here! oh Hank,...Hi Pat! it's a treat to see you here! oh Hank, the story about rubbing goop on elbows and knees is priceless.<br /><br />Though, ahem, I do apply lip balm and hand sanitizer in public...Lucy Burdette aka Roberta Isleibhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04660402177299546055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-35203630930697426862009-09-21T14:53:15.501-04:002009-09-21T14:53:15.501-04:00I'm Hallie's friend (and Roberta's and...I'm Hallie's friend (and Roberta's and Hank's too) who gives tea parties for practical good-manners practice. This is very pleasant with the girls. The boys, sigh, need more focused instruction. "Always flush" probably doesn't need any more explanation, but believe me is a required reminder for eight-year old males. "No bare bottoms" is another practical tip. For some reason, boys think mooning is hysterical. Grandmothers, however, are appalled and terrified that this behavior will be repeated in a more public venue resulting in old ladies fainting in shock. I could go on...Pat Kennedynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-6017223253579481332009-09-21T14:38:46.846-04:002009-09-21T14:38:46.846-04:00This idea seems to be taking over . . . which is a...This idea seems to be taking over . . . which is a good thing! I started a new blog about it a week ago--urging people to "lead with nice"--and I've just started a 21-Day challenge to be nice especially when it's not my first inclination. <br /><br />Check it out:<br /><br />http://whatmamataught.blogspot.comJudy Merrill Larsenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06675069484490433295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-23978347231151514932009-09-21T14:29:20.973-04:002009-09-21T14:29:20.973-04:00Oh, Maxwriter, I love your toll story. And they sa...Oh, Maxwriter, I love your toll story. And they say no good deed goes unpunished!<br /><br />My friend Patricia throws tea parties for her little grandchildren to teach them table manners. They love it.Hallie Ephronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04759439029582054503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-21717816523473932482009-09-21T13:56:54.835-04:002009-09-21T13:56:54.835-04:00The Goops! That book was a big part of my childhoo...The Goops! That book was a big part of my childhood. Raising my own sons, when particularly unmannerly table habits started creeping in, I'd say, "Tonight we're going to pretend we're eating with the Queen and use our best manners." It made it more fun (and this was in Massachusetts, mind you!). When they later started to be interested in girls, I'd say, "When you start going out with a girl, that's really going to gross her out, so practice now!" It all seems to have sunk in, since they both have become polite and thoughtful young men (at least around me...).<br /><br />The other day, after a man let me into a LONG line of cars before a toll booth, I paid his toll for him. ;)<br /><br />EdithEdith Maxwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01388006370860482509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-50457317369475242902009-09-21T13:25:20.221-04:002009-09-21T13:25:20.221-04:00Maybe it's manners with meaning vs manners as ...Maybe it's manners with meaning vs manners as rules. The kids at cub scouts were very good at saying thank you for the candy 'cause that was the rule, but they swarmed like locusts and grabbed all they could hold so those at the back got none. I wonder if it's the kids that said thank you or the ones who'd been taught not to push who grew up with better manners.Sheila Deethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13465615546936319164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001156153899984046.post-27562869772730842362009-09-21T13:19:56.537-04:002009-09-21T13:19:56.537-04:00I seem to have been left out of this discussion! G...I seem to have been left out of this discussion! Google swallowed my post, obviously.<br />What I had said was that where I live lack of manners comes with that sense of yuppy entitlement. I make more money than you so I can push in front of you, not say Thank You etc.<br />I'm delighted to say that both my daughters are very hot on manners with their kids. The children are not allowed to interrupt adults, have always had to say please and thank you and as a result are a joy to have around.Rhys Bowenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06663634889908752121noreply@blogger.com