Saturday, July 22, 2023

What We're Writing Week: Why Julia Writes

JULIA SPENCER-FLEMING: I've been having difficulties getting back into writing regularly since taking most of June off to help with some family issues. It doesn't help that I'm super-distractable and am pretty sure I have adult ADD. (I asked my doctor about getting tested, and he said, "Well, were you ever diagnosed in childhood?" I'm thinking, Listen, 30-year-old dude, I grew up in the 60s and 70s. No one was getting diagnosed with ADD! No, I didn't say it out loud.)

Anyway, the best thing to do when you're struggling to get back into creative work and fighting off distractions is to read many articles about your issues, right? So I was reading one, which I unfortunately didn't bookmark, and have forgotten the name of, because, again, squirrel brain. But I do remember a part of the motivational exercise: Identify why you do the task you're having a hard time accomplishing.

In other words, why do I write? Since I also needed a blog for today, I decided to work the exercise right here, thus killing two birds with one stone.

I write because no one else is writing the particular stories I want to read. Honestly, I was thrilled when  saw there was some Clare Fergusson/Russ Van Alstyne fan fiction on Archive of Our Own. At last, I thought, someone else will write these people and I can just read it! But no, sadly, there's been no huge rush of amateur stories. And no one has copied me enough to scratch my itch. If I want to read about Russ and Clare and their friends, it's up to me. Sigh.

 

I write because I'm not really that good at anything else. I'm a decent mom, but I've happily aged out of that occupation. I was always a good student - again, lots of writing - but only so-so in the careers I studied for. I'm too lazy to start my own businesses (see below) like my sister, the Realtor/ Face Painter/ Acting Manager. And I can't think of anything interesting to podcast, so there goes that potential income stream.

 

I write because I do love being a part of the community. We all complain about the conferences and the bookstore appearances and the panels at libraries. But honesty, I love them. Not the travel so much - who loves travel these days? But hanging out with fellow writers, oh, that can keep me going for weeks afterwards.

 

I write because I get paid to do it. Authors tend to say, "Oh, I'd do it for free." But would we? Really? As one writer told me, "That check from my publishing company lets me know just how much they love me."

I write because I'm lazy. I've done other jobs. I've waitressed, I've worked in a fundraising office in a museum, I went to law school and practiced for a hot five minutes. Believe me, writing is easier than anything else. I get to sit in my comfy desk chair (with my Fit Bit reminding me to get up and walk every hour) and play with my imaginary friends. Four hours of writing? Ooo, time to crack my back and call it a day. Try that with an office job. 

I write because I'm egotistical. I confess to you, dear readers, that I love it when people tell me how much they like my book, and when they praise my talent, skill, etc. etc. It's like hearing people praise your children: it literally never gets old. 

 

Finally, I write because I've never found anything as personally fulfilling. No, not even motherhood - my kids are a reflection of me, but are also part of their dad, and their friends, their experiences, etc. Besides, the goal of parenting is to work your way out of the job. But writing - ah, that's a job you can go on and on with, digging in to get better as the years go by, exploring different places and plots and people. I, at the bottom, really love it. And I love what writing does for me.


Well, that turns out to have been a useful exercise! I'm actually feeling quite charged up right now. Maybe I'll try listing my reasons for writing at the start of each week, and see if it remains a motivating force.


Feel free to try it for yourselves, dear readers - why do you do that thing you're dragging your feet on?

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  1. All those sound like perfectly wonderful reasons for writing, so now I’m feeling quite confident that there will most definitely be a new Clare/Russ story in my reading future.
    As for my own foot-dragging, it’s only because I am so very good at procrastination . . . .

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    1. I don't like to think of it as procrastination, Joan. I like to think of it as being excellent at reprioritizing my to-do list!

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    2. One of my favorite quotes from Mark Twain: 'Never put off till tomorrow that which may be done the day after tomorrow just as well.' (Charlene Miller-Wilson)

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    3. Charlene, that genuinely made me laugh out loud!

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  2. All good reasons to write. Normally I'd add one more reason: Writing gives you the opportunity to keep learning new things, i.e., research, and normally I love doing research. Unfortunately, that's the very thing I'm dragging my heels on right now. Everyday I think, "Today is the day I'll go do that research I need to do for (particular scene in my new book)," and instead I talk my husband into going to see a garden I've heard about, or some such. I hope I'll snap out of it soon. (Although . . . the gardens here in Braga really are beautiful.)

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    1. Elizabeth, I'm jealous! Portugal is near the top of my want-to-travel-to list. Hitting my research goals would be the farthest thing from my mind.

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  3. Love this Julia, hope it jumpstarts your words! We are all breathlessly waiting, if that helps LOL

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  4. Julia, that was wonderful! Glad to hear that it has given you your spark back. As for myself, the thing that I do, and I am very, very good at it, is reading your books! Can't say as I have ever dragged my feet and gone reluctantly to the couch to open up the book. So maybe I didn't need to read your pep talk, but I am very glad I did. No it is time for me to reread your last book so I am ready for your new one, whenever it comes. No pressure!

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    1. Thanks, Judi! Reading a book has never been something that I dragged my feet about.

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  5. Great post Julia. "Why do you do that thing you're dragging your feet on?" That is such a great question. I don't know the answer but it's a great question!

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    1. I thought so too, Anon. And it's a useful question for a whole variety of tasks and activities, not just for writing.

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  6. Julia, there are a number of us waiting to read the stories you want to read about Claire and Russ. But we (as your look at the “fan fiction” attests) can’t write them. Waiting for you to do that writing and wishing you well as you do it. Elisabeth
    BTW (unsolicited advice follows): consider firing your doctor… he’s not listening to you!

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    1. Julia, I agree with Elisabeth about your doctor!

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    2. I don't have to fire him; unfortunately he left the practice not long after I became his patient. Now I have to track down a new doctor! But don't worry, I will press him on the ADD.

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  7. What a great exercise and fun list! I really love your books (as do many of my Episcopal friends!) and hope that these exercises will help get us the next Clare/Russ story. One item on your list particularly caught my attention: It is important to get paid for what you do. After retirement, I had a fun volunteer gig holding babies and herding toddlers at a Salvation Army program for teen moms. After a few years it morphed into an on-call, part-time job. I was really surprised by how much I loved clocking in and clocking out and receiving my very puny pay checks. Getting paid really gave me an unexpected boost. I can't really answer your question, because there are too many things that I drag my feet on.

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    1. Gillian, I feel that way about getting my not very large check every two weeks when I'm teaching at the local community college. It's just a lovely confirmation that my time and effort is worth something to other people.

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  8. JULIA: All those reasons to write make sense. Hope this exercise spurs you onwards on your WIP!

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    1. Grace, I'm actually making this a working weekend, in the hopes of kickstarting myself!

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  9. Julia, I look forward to greeting old friends in a new book – when you are ready.
    After a life of many occupations, raising kids, farming, and so on, we moved back to be with my parents. There was a local (800 people) monthly magazine/newsletter. It aggravated me that it was so poor, when it should have been so good. In a series of unrelated events, an old friend wanted me to join him – he wanted to have a real magazine format and became in charge of covers and advertising. The previous person who collected the news – she was the librarian so just gleaned news and gossip from about town (not always followed up to be sure it was true!), was about to move away. I told her I would like to do it, but needed someone to proof read. So along came person 3. We took the 3-page paper to a 36 page paper with a colour cover featuring local photographers filled with everything from history, to gossip (confirmed always), birthdays – known as the quick and the dead, and I will admit we wished Happy Birthday to some who were not quick - oops! It always had an editorial which was me rambling on about something and nothing, stories on local history, an author promoting her book on houses by doing a home in town every month, a page or 2 from the local politicians and Parks Canada, any number of pages on local school activities written by the kids, puzzles, crafts, and a place for anyone to submit ideas, pictures or poetry. Of course, there were all the obituaries and thankyou’s from those who had departed that month whether they were from town or now living away. We were the voice of the community and proud of it – and completely accomplished from conception to newsstand ($3/issue) by 2 people.
    The Seagull was killed by Facebook, and finally Covid. We had no input from the younger people who preferred to announce weddings and babies on Facebook, and then forget it, rather than publish it (free) in the magazine. Our readers were dropping from over 500 issues to about 350 at demise. It seemed our audience was seen more in the obits than in the news.
    There are many occasions since then, when the other person and myself have been asked a question. We instantly reply we did an article on that in the Seagull. Since I have all the issues on the computer, we usually look up the article and then send them the issue. As we see an obit, we both think “I should save that for the Seagull…”
    I still find myself writing the editorials in my head while in the car. I wonder what I would write on climate-change?

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    1. I'm sorry about The Seagull. Facebook's arrival was also the beginning of the end for my horse blog The Horsey Set Net. It ran for twelve years. It was a labor of love.

      Traffic dwindled until it got to about five loyal readers who'd rather email me than comment. Then, all the drama over the arrival of GDPR and trying to meet its demands distracted me enough I got senior cat medications mixed up, and the most vulnerable kitty started failing.
      We barely pulled her back from the brink, except we were essentially too late.

      I lost my heart for the blog but kept at it for, seriously, those five readers until my web host hit me with a charge for hosting that made more sense for web developers, not some DIYer with two websites.

      But, like The Seagull, The Horsey Set Net had a pretty good-sized readership and respectable-for-a-niche-blog Alexa (pre-Amazon gizmo) rating until Facebook came along.

      I also saved my posts, at least, the evergreens. I may compile them and update them someday to sell on Amazon.

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    2. I used to read a Blog written by a very knowledgeable diabetic person. She wrote books and later maintained all our updates on Scientific progresses/hoaxes in a readable way. Always sensible and always interesting. Her blog just remains stuck on the last one she wrote on June 2022 without a goodbye. I always wonder if I should try and contact her and see that she is all right.
      I keep thinking that this is the year that I will review the editorials, and put them together for my children, because as is the case with children, they were a lot of my fodder for life stories.

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    3. Margo and Rhonda, absolutely keep your work in your records! I actually love the idea of self-publishing on Amazon; the kind of niche interests that used to be filled by so many blogs are perfect for DIY publishing.

      My personal theory is that blogs are going to come back, as people get tired of the endless commercialization of their attention on places like Facebook, Instagram, etc. One of the things we all love about this blog is that we aren't beholden to any billionaire's policies!

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  10. Good essay, Julia. I do like the advice in the article you mentioned and I am going to apply it here to the pile of mail and calendars from every charity imaginable that is sitting on my dining room table! (That table could be better served at a dinner party. If it ever is cleared off, I'll have one! Wait, wait. I must clear it off. Hmm.)

    Just a quick note about your Russ and Clare stories, one does not have to be of Clare's religious persuasion to love them!

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  11. From Celia: Julia your heart is so large that you encompass the world in your undertakings. And I have and am the beneficiary of that generosity. Is it ADD? I don’t know, and young drs need a slap up their heads from us mature women. My one coping mechanism, not sure I can call it a real skill. It has no education other than life is priority. My current long term priority has been to clean up and condense finances. I started in 2021 and expect to complete it by the end of August. There? I’ve set down the final, I hope as others are involved, deadline. My short term is regain my strength. Well week 1, I’ve been to PT 4 times and had a daily stretch. Let’s see if I can keep it up so I’m in great physical shape for Crime Bake. I’ve tried many other ways to get out of my own way and further chances will happen I’m sure but right now I have the daily round and two achievable priorities. It is enough.

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    1. Celia, joining you with the slap up the head for young doctors! Elisabeth

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    2. Oh, dear, don't get me started on young doctors. I had to start going to appointments with my mom, just so they'd quit ignoring her health issues by replying "It's because of your age." Which is a total BS response!

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    3. Karen, that age comment is why I fired one of mine! Elisabeth

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    4. Mine asked me when I was going to retire--and he's not that young! Otherwise I like him too much to fire him.

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    5. We used to hear comments like these from my mother's young doctor, who would take an over his father's practice, and both of my parents as patients. She would come in with digestive upsets, or ringing in her ear or pain somewhere, and 90% of the time his answer was, "Oh, that's just part of aging." It drove me crazy, and my sister and I would have to argue with our mother and push her to go back and demand some real treatment.

      It rather reminded me of the message I would get from my obstetrician during pregnancies. I used to tell Ross, "I could break out in purple and green spots and my doctor would say it's a normal side effect of pregnancy."

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  12. Please please write! I want to know what happens next with Clare and Russ!

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    1. I should have added "Because readers love the characters and are waiting to hear more about them," as one of my reasons, Anon!

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  13. We really do need to do a podcast together, Julia. And answer your texts!

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    1. Argh! I'm away at a friend's house this weekend, but I'll call you when I get home on Monday!

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  14. Last night, I thought, the sands of time are not stopping while I do the dishes, stare at headlines, or do a load of laundry. So I brought up a file and wrote 250 words just like that on a story that has been stalled forever. Note to self: I will never know how the story goes/ends unless I keep writing it.... I know how you feel, Julia! (Flora)

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  15. Great essay, Julia! Color me impressed! You accomplished a lot!

    Get what you mean about the 1960s. We know a lot more now.

    What have I been dragging my feet on? My biggest project, which is to CLEAR OUT space so that I can sit on the sofa and put up my feet. I finally started the process of decluttering about a month ago. And I am finding things, which will save me a bundle in my finances. I also found a company called FOR DAYS, which will take your used but CLEAN clothes, purses, bags and shoes for recycling. Goodwill REFUSED to accept my stuff. And I do NOT want to add to the landfill! Each Take Back Bag costs twenty dollars.

    Diana

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    1. Diana, thank you for drawing attention to FOR DAYS. I hadn't heard of the organization before, and it sounds terrific. Like you, I hate the idea of clothing and accessories going into the waste stream instead of being effectively recycled. I'm going to look into getting one of their Take Back bags!

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  16. Rhys: I write because I don’t know how to stop. Writing is my identity and purpose and I’ve always done it. I’ve spent my life in someone else’s world and I can’t image not doing that. I keep saying I’m going to slow down, take some months off— and then I get an idea that can’t be ignored and I start writing it.
    Julia, if someone told you you were not allowed to write any more how would you feel? Would it be a great motivator to prove them wrong?

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    1. So glad you and Julia are writing because we love your books! Diana

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    2. Rhys, if someone told me I wasn't allowed to write anymore, I would be despondent. Oddly enough, even though I have difficulties getting restarted, organized, and staying on task, I really love writing more than anything. I can't imagine not doing it for the rest of my life.

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  17. So glad you are getting your writing mojo back! I miss Clare and Russ - I don't want to write them - I want to visit with them in their fully faceted lives that YOU'VE built! Go- back to work!

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    1. Kait, maybe I should enlist some of the Reds community to nag me via email to get off Twitter and start writing!

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    2. That's a plan. Let me know if I need to volunteer for a shift!

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  18. Go, Julia! You can do this, because you've done it before, and because you are one of the best writers in the genre (with a lot of JRW company). Do I need to pull out the pompons?

    My big procrastination project, which has had me dragging my heels now for years, is to digitize the family photos. I literally have over 100 years' worth, and started working on this project so long ago I forget what my objectives were.

    Six months ago I bought a photo scanner that was supposed to make this job easier, but it's ludicrously unwieldy, and frustrating as hell. I realized I needed to sort all the photos ahead of time so I could scan them into files by subject, so I started doing just that. Which was fine for the loose photos, but more than 3/4 of them are in albums. Oy. So meantime, there are piles and piles of photos on one of the guest beds, which, oh by the way, are meant to be used in a couple weeks when all three daughters come to visit.

    And this does not even account for the many thousands of digital files that need to be filed and copied for the kids.

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    1. My big brother took all the family albums to scan several years ago. We are not holding our breath.

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    2. It's a daunting task, Pat.

      You might ask if he needs help, otherwise the pics might end up in a black hole.

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    3. Karen, that might be a job you want to send off to a professional. Yes, it is pricey. But they can actually get things done and the end product is terrific.

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  19. Revisiting our whys is so important. Thank you for sharing your process.

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  20. Oh, Edith, just your description of that sounds exhausting! Which to me, is a perfectly good reason to avoid something. Honestly, sometimes it feels like publicists would like us to clone ourselves, because the amount of social media they want us to do is another full-time job!

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  21. Oh boy does this hit home. (Karen, I used an app called Photomyne to scan all of Jerry's drawings. Piles and piles of them. It really made it easier but still took what felt like forever) I think I write sometimes to figure out what I think. Circular logic, I know. But somehow the process or writing is revelatory.

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    1. Thanks, Hallie! I'll look into it.

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    2. Wow, Photomyne looks way easier than using a dedicated scanner. Thank you for the tip, Hallie. It will also work for the many boxes of mementos I've saved over the years. I started to sort through them and Steve and I realized it was too much, and we needed to wade through it more carefully.

      This is huge. Julia, I hope your procrastination is solved this easily!

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    3. I'm going to have to look into Photomyne myself, since I, too, have a million barely sorted family photos that I'd like to digitize.

      A few years back, Victoria took our entire box of family film, shot on a type of video recorder that I think is no longer even in use, and had a professional organization turn it into digital, easy to share, movies. It made a huge difference, and enabled us to actually watch the old film, which we hadn't been able to do, because we didn't have the technology to match!

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  22. Couldn't have said it better myself! All of your reasons, Julia. And while I can quit this particular day job after 4 hours, I don't ever have to retire from it, either!

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    1. Exactly, Susan! I recently opened up and IRA with a new financial agency, and the nice young man who was walking me through it said, "What are you retirement goals?" I had to tell him I had no plans to actually retire...

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  23. I write because it makes me feel like I did when I was a child playing with my dolls. Other times I write to finish what I started when I was playing. As an as-of-yet-unpublished writer, I look to you and the others who have had success ahead of me on the path to publication to inspire me to keep going. The realistic and honest digging you did in this post has done just that. Thank you and best of luck reigniting your own flame--when it glows it lights us all.

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    1. Thank you so much, Pamela! I am gratified you found it useful. I certainly did.

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  24. Julia, I read this first thing this morning, and you hit almost every point for me. I'd add "writer's fear" to my feet-dragging issues--"what if I can't really write and it's not any good?" But I can't imagine NOT writing, and not always having this other life going on in my head. (Not to mention that I get to go to England...)

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    1. Debs, I keep saying my next series will be set in some highly desirable location. I'm sure if writing means I get to go to the Virgin Islands for a month every winter to do research, it will be a powerful motivator!

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  25. I love this! I write become I have the germ of a good story and want to find out what happens--and the only way to do it is to write it. I do think, on a practical level, if you set a very low word count bar for yourself it make a a difference. Not to write a whole book--just 250 words. DO that. Then, you'll stop.

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    1. That's an excellent suggestion, Hank, and I'm going to adopt it. Saying you only need to hit 250 words is so easy. It's like doing that Pomodoro timing thing, where you trick yourself into starting because you know that you don't have to go very long. And of course you then wind up often continuing well past the mark you set for yourself.

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  26. Julia, there is no writer--not Debs, not SJ, not Louise, nor any of my other favorites--whose next book I look forward to as much as I do yours. I hope this might help give you a nudge some day when you need it.

    While I'm here, I'd like to ask a question: my wife and I got our neighborhood book club to read In the Bleak Midwinter, and several of our members have torn through the entire series. BTW, re-readability is one of the great things about your books! I subsequently received a query from one of the members. She was playing some hymns and noticed that some were written by Fanny Crosby Van Alstyne, who is apparently credited most often just as Fanny Crosby. We had discussed your use of lines from hymns in your book titles, and she wondered whether you might have been familiar with Ms. Crosby and taken Russ's name from her. Or is this an interesting coincidence? I'd love to be able to report back to our book club on this.

    Many thanks always, Jim Collins

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, Jim. As to the hymns, no, I was unaware that Fanny Crosby was a Van Alstyne. I picked Russ's last name because Dutch surnames are extremely common in that part of New York, and I had actually known a classmate with the same last name in high school, and I always liked it. Please thank you your book club for me, and I hope that they continue to enjoy my novels!

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  27. ADD? Preaching to the choir here. I self diagnosed many years ago when our son was diagnosed as having it. My specialty is tuning out and missing half of what is said. Oh well. I made it through school. Right now I'm avoiding going to the grocery, doing the laundry, and long-term, not opening the box of loose photos Frank brought a couple of trips ago. But it's silly. Once I make it out of the house I enjoy going to the stores. I feel good when laundry is done and I have something to wear. As for the photos, they will sit and mature for a while longer.

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    1. Pat, if worse comes to worse, you can always leave the photos as part of your estate. Then they become someone else's problem!

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  28. Clearing junk email and getting off the mailing list so I don't miss out of normal volunteer appointments. Uh, grr, frustrating.......What to guess what will be doing this afternoons?

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    1. This exercise seems to be lighting a fire under a lot of butts today, Deana! And really, is there anything as satisfactory then gathering up all that junk mail and dropping it into the recycling bin?

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  29. Julia, I don’t mean to in any way pressure you to write. I love your books and would happily read a new one (though I find I’m happy to read your blog posts and hear your voice about your life), but think maybe that’s not helpful. My son is struggling with this in his Master’s program. He has two more papers (not dissertations, just regular research papers) to write and then he will finally finish the program. He has exhausted his professors’ good will with his requests for extensions. But the more we inquire as to his progress, the more he doesn’t write. So Julia, please know that as much as we all would love to read a new Russ and Claire book, we care much more about you and your well being. Best of luck. — Pat S.

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    1. I can empathize with your son, Pat. There is a point where thinking about doing the work feels overwhelming, and having other people talk about it just makes it worse.

      As a side note, in the periods of my life when I have had this problem? I was actually experiencing depression. Has your son been screened? My first episode of depression actually happened when I was in grad school - I think the stress and the pressure of getting in high levels of school work helped trigger it.

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    2. I have too many friends who never finished that last paper, never got the degree. When I got to the end of my last semester of law school, I had 3 weeks to do 3 papers and take 5 finals. I knew that trap-- the longer you wait, the more perfect it has to be, so the less likely it is to get done. My last final was scheduled for June 7, with graduation on June 9 and Bar Admission (assuming I finished those papers-- we have diploma privilege) on June 13. I had to be out of my apartment by June 15 (and as a result, the slip that I wore under my unlined linen suit had already gone back to my parents' home, so I was sworn in wearing a baby-doll nightgown around my waist, but that's another story). My younger brother was graduating high school on June 16th and as president of his class, was giving a speech that I wanted to hear. So I booked a ticket to Europe on June 17th, and tried what would nowadays be deemed the Nike method-- just do it. I didn't need a good grade, just a passing grade. I dove in.

      Turn in anything that is coherent. They will pass you to get rid of you. Then turn in the apartment key and get on the plane.

      What can I say? It took me almost week to crash, and then I sat in a cafe in Amsterdam on the longest day of the year, waiting till dark to go back to my room. All in all, it wasn't a pleasant experience. But it was OVER. I don't even remember what those papers were about. 50 years later, no one cares what the grades were.

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    3. Ellen, I have made exactly the same comment to every one of my children at one point or another during their college careers. It doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to be turned in. And they get to do an electronically - we had to type it out and race across campus to hand it in on time!

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  30. Do or do not. There is no try. I say it every morning when I fire up my laptop.

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    1. Maybe I need to tack a picture of Yoda up in my work area, Margaret. Or baby Yoda, I love him so much...

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  31. Julia, what I love about the Claire & Russ books is how you don’t sugar-coat anything that happens. I often wonder how you can tap into the angst and grief and happiness that happens to the characters and get it just right. I hope you are not invading your own private memories, and appreciate that not everything is tied up with a lovely bow. You and Debs have mastered that in your books, and I have no doubt that it must drain you. You don’t need a suck-it-up, but a pause and breathe. When you are ready – step forward.

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    1. Thank you so much, Margo. That means a great deal to me.

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  32. Kim here: Great list of reasons to write, Julia. I identify with most of them, and I laughed when you confessed how happy praise of your books makes you. As you made me happy (and you, too, Debs) with your wonderful blurbs for my books. Someone saying something good about a book you've written is EXACTLY like someone praising your child!

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    1. Right? You're so happy when they go out into the world and other people love them like you do!

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  33. By the way, the good thing about writing a book is that if you have done this before, if you turn it in, it'll probably be better than you thought-- and if there is an incoherent paragraph or page, your editor, or the copy editor, or even you on a re-read after an edit, will catch it. Don't sweat it. Unless you have the hottest dope on Trump and Hunter Biden, the publishing process is, as one of my editors termed it, "glacial." Write now, fix later.

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    1. Ellen, that's good advice, and, tweaked, important for people writing their first book as well. Get the draft done first, fix in in later passes.

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  34. Oh, what a great exercise! I've been dragging my feet on proposals writing which is ridiculous because that really is the salad day of the novel - when everything is new and shiny! Honestly, I think I am just dragging my feet because it's so freaking hot in AZ my brain has melted. LOL.

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    1. Don't say that, Jenn, I've been reading all the articles about heat and that can actually happen to your cells... Eeek! I predict a wave of heat-as-the-murder-weapon books coming our way in the future.

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  35. Such a great post, Julia. A relief to know someone of your caliber struggles with the temptation to be distracted. I write, like you do, because I want to provide a storyline and style that's unique. But that often leads to brain freeze as I beat myself up over the 'is it as good as the last one' mental gymnastics. And believe me, I hated high school gymnastics. Remember jumping the horse? Gave me nightmares! Thanks for inspiring me to get back to the daily push knowing I'm not alone.

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