Krista Davis on What Makes a Match

LUCY BURDETTE: Today I'm delighted to bring my dear friend Krista Davis to the Reds. She writes two wonderful cozy mystery series, including the Paws and Claws mysteries. Book 4 in the series, MISSION IMPAWSIBLE, will be out February 7. Welcome Krista! 

KRISTA DAVIS: Thank you for inviting me to Jungle Red today. I am thrilled to be here.

 Mission Impawsible releases on February 7^th, just before Valentine’s Day, which is appropriate because it involves matters of the heart. More specifically, there’s a matchmaking event going on in Wagtail. It differs a little bit from the famous one in Ireland, because dogs and cats are helping bring their people together. Those of us who are devoted to our furry friends would love to meet a mate who feels the same way.

However, I’m a total mess when it comes to romance. So I started doing some research on what attracts people to each other. It’s a fascinating subject. Here’s a little quiz to find out how much you know. Just to help you along, these questions are about romantic long-lasting love, not one night stands.

1. When a person first meets someone, how long does it take to know if he/she is a potential mate?

A. 30 seconds to 4 minutes

B. 20 minutes

C. 24 hours

D. 1 week

2. Women are attracted to men who:

A. Dress like their fathers.

B. Drink (booze or no booze) like their fathers.

C. Smell like their fathers.

D. Sound like their fathers.

3. Women and men are generally attracted to:

A. wealthier mates.

B. better educated mates.

C. smarter mates.

D. mates of their own level of education and intelligence.

ANSWERS:

1. You are correct if you selected A. 30 seconds to 4 minutes. It depends on the study in question, but most say we know in 30 seconds to 2 minutes whether a person could be a potential mate. When I read that, I thought it must mean that attraction is strictly physical. After all, what more could happen in 30 seconds? Turns out there’s a lot going on that we don’t even realize.

2. C. Smell like their fathers is correct. That’s one of the things we may not be thinking about when we meet someone. But studies have shown that women are attracted to men who smell like dad. At first blush, it seems silly and even somewhat icky, but it’s logical that on a subconscious level, the familiar scent of a loving father might make a woman feel more comfortable with that potential mate.

3. If you chose D, you are correct. In spite of stories about gold diggers, most of us marry someone of our same level of intelligence and education. In fact, most people marry someone from their own social group as well.

The truth is that when we meet someone, all kinds of unconscious processes kick in. My favorite example of this is the study that indicated women are attracted to the scent of men with an immune system different than their own. The theory is that such a mate produces stronger, healthier offspring.

How many times did one of your friends rave about some guy she met who left you cold? You just could not understand what she saw in him. Turns out her instincts might be telling her something! He’s not the guy for you, but he’s right for her.

I think all these processes have interesting implications for arranged marriages and for breeding animals. It makes me wonder if people and animals who chose their own mates produce stronger offspring.

Of course, in Mission Impawsible, there’s a matchmaker and meddling mamas to complicate things. Does anyone make a match? Yes. But it might not be who you expect.

Are you a matchmaker? Why or why not? And if yes, what's your most successful story? Krista will be giving away a signed copy of MISSION IMPAWSIBLE to one of today’s commenters!

 Krista is also the author of the NYT-bestselling Domestic Diva mystery series. You can find her here:

www.facebook.com/KristaDavisAuthor

pinterest.com/kristadavisbook

mysteryloverskitchen.com

twitter.com/kristadavis

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Lisa Alber, WHISPERS IN THE MIST—and Meeting her Matchmaker

SUSAN ELIA MACNEAL: Today I'm delighted to introduce Lisa Alber, author of Kilmoon and her just-published Whispers in the Mist.

LISA ALBER: Thanks for having me, Susan! I always enjoy joining the Jungle Reds gang for a day.

In my relatively short time as a novelist (my second novel, WHISPERS IN THE MIST, came out a few weeks ago—woohoo!), I’ve come to the conclusion that reading is a conversation we have with ourselves; how we react to what we read isn’t so much about the story as about ourselves.

I hadn’t thought about this until I went to Ireland this past spring for novel research. One day to my delight I happened on a big horse fair and got to talking to the owner of a Connemara pony. He was charming fellow, one of the loquacious Irish. I wasn’t expecting anything out of the conversation, but then he asked my name, and I asked his name, and then my mind got blown.

“Wait,” I said, “you’re W—D—, the matchmaker?” I couldn’t believe it. Of all the horse owners in all of Ireland, I happened to be talking to the man who was one of the inspirations for my first novel (and thus the series). Oh. My. God. I immediately fell into a flurry of words, telling him about the County Clare mysteries and assuring him that my rendition of matchmaking had nothing to do with reality.

I pulled out a copy of KILMOON that I carried with me everywhere. He seemed a little—bemused? Wary? Skeptical? But, also curious. Maybe a smidgen impressed. So, feeling a tad foolish, I signed over the copy to him. He asked for my phone number. 

Sure, why not? I thought.  

I walked away thoroughly tickled by the encounter, so tickled that I had to tell Lou the owner of my favorite café, Ginger Lou’s, and later Kevin the barman at my favorite pub, Cooley’s. I got an earful about the matchmaker along the lines of:

“He’d buy and sell you as soon as look at you.” “He’s a pretty tricky character.” “An old gigolo.” “You couldn’t be matchmaker without doing a bit of quality control.”

Fascinating, I thought. W—D—, matchmaker, was or is a total player. Huh.

Fast forward a week. I received a text message: You said i may not like the book i said i might so when good to meet up w--

Whoa! I hadn’t expected to hear from W—, and here he’d read the bbook surprisingly fast. The next day we met up at Ginger Lou’s. Only now I was unaccountably nervous. My matchmaker is the only character I’ve written who is remotely based on reality, and however remotely, the fact remained that I’d gotten the idea for him from W—D—. If W— was a tricky character, did he want money? If he was an old gigolo, did he want—something?

WHAT DID HE WANT?

The suspense about killed me, and Lou was nothing but laughing at me. “Oh ay, he probably just wants to get the leg over.” (“The leg over” – I love the Irish!)

The next day, W— was charming as could be as we sipped tea and ate dessert (with Lou smirking in the background). He didn’t say much about the novel, only that I certainly “can write.” We chatted about all kinds of things, including his large extended family, many kids, and grandchildren. I couldn’t figure him out.

Toward the end of the conversation, he finally said, “There’s one thing I want to ask you though.” Uh-oh, here we go. “Your character, Merrit—is she based on anyone?”

Merrit is one of my series protagonists. She’s from California and is the illegitimate daughter of the local matchmaker. It took me a second to realize what W— was asking: Was Merrit based on ME? Was I his daughter? Whoa! Without letting on that I understood what he was really asking, I assured him that she’s not based on anyone real.

You can see why I got to reflecting about the meanings our stories can have for people, meanings that we could never in a million years predict, meanings that don’t reflect the stories themselves, meanings that have nothing to do with us, the authors. It’s an amazing thing, not to mention a little mind-boggling.

Ultimately, I suppose that’s why storytelling is so powerful. Stories have their own lives. I just hadn’t considered this for the stories I write. I mean, I’m just doing my thing—having my own conversation with myself as I write.

SUSAN ELIA MACNEAL: Lisa, wow, what an amazing story. He must have been completely freaked out that you might be his real-life daughter, based on Merrit!


Reds and lovely readers, when you read, how much of yourselves to you bring to the book? Do you think novels are a collaboration between writer and reader? Tell us in the comments!



ABOUT WHISPERS IN THE MIST:

There’s a whisper in the mists

In Lisfenora, Ireland, a strange fog has rolled in off the Atlantic. Along with the fog comes tales of the Grey Man, a predatory faery of local lore who snatches innocent souls into his deadly gloom.

And with the mists come murder

When a teenage boy dies in Detective Sergeant Danny Ahern’s arms, Danny finds himself pursuing his own grey man, a killer who becomes more elusive the closer Danny gets to the truth. A mute woman may be the key to solving the murder and helping Danny heal his own broken life, but first she must unlock the memories from her past.

ABOUT LISA:

Lisa Alber writes the County Clare mysteries. Her debut novel, Kilmoon, was nominated for the Rosebud Award of Best First Novel. Kirkus calls her second novel, Whispers in the Mist, a “worthy successor to Kilmoon in tone, mood, complexity, and keen insight into human failures and triumphs.” She balances writing her third novel (Midnight Ink, August 2017) with gardening, dog-walking, and goofing off. She lives in Portland, OR. You can find Lisa online at lisaalber.com, Facebook and Twitter.

WHISPERS link: https://www.amazon.com/Whispers-Mist-County-Clare-Mystery/dp/073874896X

KILMOON link: https://www.amazon.com/Kilmoon-County-Clare-Mystery-Alber/dp/0989544605