LUCY BURDETTE: I do realize that this is what we call a "first-world problem" but that said, here it is. When we are in Connecticut, John doesn't go to the grocery store. (I tease him about whether he needs directions on the few occasions that he does go.) I like to take my time (except for the deli counter--I loathe the deli counter), choose the right kind of milk, and cheese, and produce--oh, and cereal. Even if I gave him a list, I could never be sure what might come back in those bags.
But in Key West, there is a lot of construction and hordes of tourists carrying beers and pedicabs and conch tour trains between us and the store. It's not a fun drive. And then we live in a third floor apartment, which involves schlepping and lugging. So we go together, sometimes only every two or three weeks. But John has mentioned that he thinks I'm controlling in the supermarket. (Moi? Controlling?) He complains that I dole out one item at a time for him to shop for.
|John with his list|
So who shops in your family?
HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: Hilariously,this is one of the things we always do together. We actually have fun, and it never takes too long. I get to say "What would you like for dinner" and Jonathan gets to say "You decide" and I get to say "I ALWAYS decide" and it goes on like that.
The key is to--pssssst--send him away on a mission. "Go get some light bulbs,, okay?" I say. Then he's gone forever. Seriously, we have a good time and it's not a chore.
LUCY: Hmmm, Jonathan must be more pliable than my John, Hank. It was the sending him off on a one-item mission that started this lament:).
HALLIE EPHRON: My husband shops for groceries when I'm sick. And then only out of guilt. I also hog the kitchen.
If he comes to the store with me, it's because he's beside himself with boredom. He always disappears into something like the exotic foods section and emerges with something like a six-pack of something like guava juice. Or wander off into the natural foods and emerge with some new kind of granola.
Also I like to do my meal planning on the hoof -- I wander around waiting for ingredients to 'speak to me.' After ten minutes he's lost interest and is waiting in the car. (Never shop a sale at Macy's with the man.)
SUSAN ELIA MACNEAL: Fresh Direct (the online grocery delivery service, see freshdirect.com) became available right around the time my son was born in 2005 and has been a lifesaver, especially for us in NYC without a car. I sort of feel like Joan Jetson, using my computer to shop, but overall, the experience has been a good one. (Around the same time, our local supermarket started to charge for previously free delivery — so it seemed like a good deal, as well.) Of course, I still like to get my fresh fruits and veggies at the farmers' market!
RHYS BOWEN: Never shop a sale at Macy's with a man--so true, Hallie. Did it last week. He sat by the entrance and pouted. And checked his watch. But he loves to grocery shop. When he first retired he'd study the specials for the week, drive all over town to find the best produce and bring it home in triumph like a cave man lugging in a mammoth. He'd put it all on the kitchen table. "Guess how much?" he'd say. In my head I'd calculated 59$ but I'd say $75. "Wrong!" he'd exclaim in triumph. "Only $59".
Hey, if I haven't learned to outsmart a man by now, what have I learned? So now he does all the grocery shopping and it's bliss.
DEBORAH CROMBIE: Rick only goes to the grocery store if I am sick, crippled, or out of town. (I shudder to think what he buys--and eats--when I'm not here. In fact, I try not to think about it at all...) Well, that's not quite fair. He will go get ice, or a bagged salad, or dog food is specifically requested. But he wants a bar code for each item so that he can put it in his phone. He doesn't understand why I don't want a bar-coded list in MY phone. (I use a small spiral notebook, and make very organized shopping lists.) But I KNOW what brand of pasta sauce or salad dressing and I don't need a BAR CODE!
Did I hear someone out there say I was controlling????
LUCY: Okay Reds, we've told you all our secrets now, so your turn to dish: who shops in your house?
And tomorrow--big drum roll--Rhy's new book will be out and she's telling us all about it and giving away a copy! Come back and bring your friends!