LUCY BURDETTE: Today I'm delighted to bring my dear friend Krista Davis to the Reds. She writes two wonderful cozy mystery series, including the Paws and Claws mysteries. Book 4 in the series, MISSION IMPAWSIBLE, will be out February 7. Welcome Krista!
KRISTA DAVIS: Thank you for inviting me to Jungle Red today. I am thrilled to be here.
However, I’m a total mess when it comes to romance. So I started doing some research on what attracts people to each other. It’s a fascinating subject. Here’s a little quiz to find out how much you know. Just to help you along, these questions are about romantic long-lasting love, not one night stands.
1. When a person first meets someone, how long does it take to know if he/she is a potential mate?
A. 30 seconds to 4 minutes
B. 20 minutes
C. 24 hours
D. 1 week
2. Women are attracted to men who:
A. Dress like their fathers.
B. Drink (booze or no booze) like their fathers.
C. Smell like their fathers.
D. Sound like their fathers.
3. Women and men are generally attracted to:
A. wealthier mates.
B. better educated mates.
C. smarter mates.
D. mates of their own level of education and intelligence.
- You are correct if you selected A. 30 seconds to 4 minutes. It depends on the study in question, but most say we know in 30 seconds to 2 minutes whether a person could be a potential mate. When I read that, I thought it must mean that attraction is strictly physical. After all, what more could happen in 30 seconds? Turns out there’s a lot going on that we don’t even realize.
- C. Smell like their fathers is correct. That’s one of the things we may not be thinking about when we meet someone. But studies have shown that women are attracted to men who smell like dad. At first blush, it seems silly and even somewhat icky, but it’s logical that on a subconscious level, the familiar scent of a loving father might make a woman feel more comfortable with that potential mate.
- If you chose D, you are correct. In spite of stories about gold diggers, most of us marry someone of our same level of intelligence and education. In fact, most people marry someone from their own social group as well.
The truth is that when we meet someone, all kinds of unconscious processes kick in. My favorite example of this is the study that indicated women are attracted to the scent of men with an immune system different than their own. The theory is that such a mate produces stronger, healthier offspring.
How many times did one of your friends rave about some guy she met who left you cold? You just could not understand what she saw in him. Turns out her instincts might be telling her something! He’s not the guy for you, but he’s right for her.
I think all these processes have interesting implications for arranged marriages and for breeding animals. It makes me wonder if people and animals who chose their own mates produce stronger offspring.
Of course, in Mission Impawsible, there’s a matchmaker and meddling mamas to complicate things. Does anyone make a match? Yes. But it might not be who you expect.
Are you a matchmaker? Why or why not? And if yes, what's your most successful story? Krista will be giving away a signed copy of MISSION IMPAWSIBLE to one of today’s commenters!
Krista is also the author of the NYT-bestselling Domestic Diva mystery series. You can find her here: