DEBORAH CROMBIE: Terry Shames needs no introduction here on Jungle Red. She's a Reds friend and a frequent guest, and today she has some things to say that I suspect we can all relate to. In fact, I think she's been telepathically eavesdropping on me!
NEW BEGINNINGS
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The theme at this time of the year is New Beginnings. But as I look at my list of possible resolutions, I can’t help thinking that I’m not actually going for new beginnings; it’s really the same old, same old. I have a list of personal resolves and business resolves. Every year it’s some variation of the same thing on both lists.
The personal goes something like: lose weight, eat healthy food, get plenty of exercise, be kind, and stay in closer touch with people you care about, not necessarily in that order. I actually make these resolutions pretty much every day as well.
Then there are the personal ones that I resolve to do “sometime this year.” 1) Go through my years of photo albums and (mumble, mumble). Do what? Throw out the ones with people I don’t recognize? (Wait. What if I remember them next week?) Have them converted to digital? (My mind goes numb at this thought). 2) Weed out the clothes/cookbooks/cooking gear that I never use. (But I might use them someday!) 3) Cull my books and give away the ones I know I’ll never read (How do I know that next week I won’t want to read exactly that book?) Learn Spanish. (Just joking, I gave that one up a while back).
The same business resolutions also show up regularly. Every day: Write x number of words, spend an hour on promotion, go through yesterday’s emails and make sure I didn’t forget something, work on whatever blog/speaking engagement/article needs to be completed, and start taking notes for the next book.
Just like with personal I have long-term business goals that I resolve to do “soon.” Learn Canva. (Sigh). Go through my emails and delete the ones that don’t mean anything and file the ones that need to be kept in the proper folders. (When Pam Stack told me that she clears out all of her emails and files them every, single day, I resolved to do the same. That was, I don’t know, five years ago?) Think about doing a podcast (well, think about thinking about doing a podcast). Absolutely promise myself to keep my website updated. Grow my newsletter list. Read those valuable articles about promotion I’ve been saving (most of which are probably outdated). Watch those important Zoom tutorials I’ve been sitting on (for at least five years).
I doubt very much that I’m alone in renewing my resolution vows every year. Same old, same old. So why do them at all? Because it reminds me of my priorities. It reminds me that I have choices. It gives me a jumpstart. It doesn’t mean there won’t be surprises and changes of directions. For example, I had no idea when 2024 began that toward the end of the year I’d take a leap into self-publishing a novel. It was a learning experience, too complex to tackle here, but suffice it to say it was satisfying. And who knew my husband and I would start looking for a different house? Also complicated!
I think beginning a new year is like beginning a new book. And as it happens, I’ve just started writing a new Samuel Craddock book, so I can see the parallels.
When I begin a book I’m excited, even though I have no idea what I’m going to write about. Yep, pretty much like not knowing at the beginning of the year what the year will hold. I’m excited, but… who knows what’s in store? I have a known deadline for the book.
For life, the deadline is somewhere vaguely in the future. I’m not an outliner, which is probably for the best, since if I were I’d never get a book written. In order to know what I would outline, I have to write the book. Just like in living a life, I have to live it to know what it’s going to be like. Sometimes I do have a notion of what I intend the book to be about. Just like when I begin a year, I have a notion of what the year should hold. But at some point, I have to start writing and then keep on writing. Pretty much like life. I live every day not knowing exactly what will happen, and even if I have a loose plan, all kinds of things can upend the plan—things from the mundane to the alarming. And sometimes wonderful things can upend plans.
In the particular book I’m writing, I’m more unprepared than usual. I have no idea what this book will be. So, just like I wake up every morning and have my routine that I do before I face the day, I have my pre-writing routine. And in both cases, the routine moves me into action. I’ve now written 12,000 words and still have not a clue what the book is about. I’ve lived a whole six days in the year and who knows what it will be about?
A writer I admire tremendously told me once that she also has no idea where a book is going when she begins, and at some point in every book she flings herself around the house sobbing because she KNOWS the book will not get written. That she has lost the ability to write a book. That she’d rather do anything than continue writing. That she’s embarrassed, out of gas…etc. And then she does what writers do. She sits down at her desk and writes some more words. So yes, sometimes in life we fling ourselves around saying we’ve failed, we’re out of gas, we’ve lost the ability to love life, we’re at the end…but then we do what people do. We live some more life.
I leave you, dear readers, with best wishes that you thrive and enjoy life to the max. Life is a small boat and we are all in it together. Love and laugh with each other and as one of my favorite sayings urges, “dance like no one is watching.”
DEBS: And that is certainly a fitting motto to take us into the new year!
Reds and readers, do any of your New Year's resolutions look like Terry's?
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