Fear of Flying

DEBORAH CROMBIE: I have always loved flying. Well, except for maybe my first first flight. I was thirteen and we flew from Dallas to Houston (!!!) for my brother's wedding. It was a prop plane and I was horribly airsick--for the first and last time, thank goodness. But since then, flying has always been a welcome adventure. Even in this era of the perpetually shrinking seats (uncomfortable even for a small person) I have looked forward to every trip with a fizz of excitement. I even love airports--all the bustle of people coming and going and the anticipation of my own journey.  For someone who is not good with heights, I'm even surprisingly okay with turbulence. 

I especially love the international departure terminal at DFW Airport (Terminal D.) Once through security, I have always felt like a bird set free, and for years I've taken a photo of the Dallas to London Heathrow departure gate, a little ritual to mark the start of the journey. Here's my photo from November 4th, 2019. Two minutes to boarding!

 

But, now, I don't know. My last flight was London to Dallas, the day before Thanksgiving, 2019, and even though I'm fully vaccinated, I'm having a little trouble wrapping my head around the concept of post-Covid air travel. Mask at the airport, mask on a short flight, okay, I can get there, I think. But a mask on a ten hour flight?? Eeek. How to manage eating and drinking? Not to mention sitting literally up against another person or people, for many hours, when we have been so contact averse for the past year. Then there's the constant sanitizing of hands and surfaces--your seat area is much germier than the airplane loos, apparently. 

REDS, if you've flown (I think Jenn and Lucy have?) how was the adjustment? And if you haven't, how are you feeling about flying again?

RHYS BOWEN: I haven’t flown since late 2019 and have no plans to fly until much later this year when most of the population has been vaccinated. I too worry about keeping a mask on for ten or eleven hours, trying to sleep with a mask on. We do normally go Upper Class on Virgin so I’d get my own pod and not worry about someone breathing near me, but once in Europe all the seats are close together in one cabin. I am vaccinated but what about variants? It is a big concern, but I have to say that I am dying to travel again. Praying the world will return to normal soon and I can sit at a cafe in Paris, go to a pub in London and meet up with family and friends.

JENN MCKINLAY : I traveled by air three times during the pandemic (family tragedy), long flights from AZ to CT/MA and back, during the peak of the pandemic in both places, and it was fine. I’ll be flying again in a few weeks and I’m not worried at all. In fact, I’m less worried now than I was then because at least we’re finally getting vaccinated. I wear an N-95, scrub down my seat, and take a nap. Most of my fellow passengers were well behaved and respectful of the times we’re living in. Personally, I can’t wait to travel internationally. As soon as we get the all clear, I’m outta here. LOL.

LUCY BURDETTE: We flew last May and were scared to death, but at that point things were not as bad as they’ve gotten. Next week we’ll be flying to LA to see our daughter and grandchildren. (and son-in-law of course.) We’re vaccinated, and loaded with sanitizers and wipes, and I keep buying more masks (don’t tell John!) I’ll be nervous, but we’re so eager to see them after a year.  And I too am dying to fly internationally. We’ll just have to wait and see what happens--right now much of Europe looks horrible. 

HALLIE EPHRON: I can’t say that I love flying. Traveling, yes. But getting there is never half the fun. Needless to say I do not fly first class. Steerage is more like it, and usually not direct. Making connections is stressful, though eventually I’m usually happy to end up BEING somewhere else. Especially somewhere exotic - our last trip was to Panama watching birds and walking our feet off. And I do miss going to writing conferences and connecting with so many old friends.

HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: I used to be terrified of flying. I mean--beyond terrified. Once I took the train from Boston to Chicago (23 hours) so I wouldn't have to make a 90-minute flight. Now--somehow--I actually love it. But I had to fly to Florida on March 11, 2020. I was insanely scared, and then I had to be in the Palm Beach airport, then in a hotel, then at an event (where I cowered in the hall while 250 people had a buffet!) then back in the airport, then on the plane home. It was--awful. 

But. I do like flying in general. I love looking out the window (tetris!), and I love how intently I can work. But now, today, I cannot imagine--CANNOT IMAGINE--getting on a plane.

It’s irrational, I think. Isn’t  it? With two vaccines? 

But, ah. They told us exactly how to stay home and we did that.

But how do we now--re-enter?  

 

DEBS: That's the thing, isn't it, Hank? Re-entry. I'm glad some of our more adventurous REDS are paving the way. READERS, have you flown? Are you planning to fly any time soon? Any tips for adjusting to travel in a post-Covid world?

 

And just for fun, tell us about your first-ever plane flight!

 

Innocents Abroad

Youngest making good food choices in Prishtina

JULIA SPENCER-FLEMING: We've been enjoying pictures and stories from several Reds' trips abroad these past few weeks, and it's gotten me thinking about that FIRST trip to a foreign land. Youngest left for Kosovo (with stops in London, Istanbul, Serbia and Croatia) for a month-long college program, and has been sending back pictures, texts and emails describing her experience. She's traveled quite a bit around the US in her childhood and teens - usually accompanying me and Ross on book business - but the was the big one, her first time away from the US ( we won't count a baby appearance in Canada) and the first major trip without parental aid and supervision.

I spent years overseas as a child when we were in the military, which left me with a love of travel and fond memories of many European countries. But even though you're living with and learning about cultural and linguistic differences, living overseas with your parents managing every aspect of your time and travel is nothing like heading out under your own steam.

I left for Italy in the summer of my junior year. I was participating in a stone-age campsite excavation in the Tuscan region before the start of my school year in London. Unlike my daughter, who managed all her flight reservations by herself, mine were done for me by my mom's travel agent. I remember clutching my precious paper tickets nervously, because of course back in the day, if you lost one you were in trouble.

That's not the only difference between my experience and Youngest's. I had several slim wallets of American Express Traveller's Cheques and a new Kodak camera. I took exactly thirteen pictures in an entire summer spent in Italy because I was so afraid of running out of film and not being able to capture some vital scene! I had a tablet of onionskin letter paper and air mail envelopes, though I was extremely negligent in writing during the summer. My poor parents - I don't think they heard a word from me in the first four or five weeks. No phone, of course - in fact, from the time I left until I came back to the US for Christmas, the only time I actually called home (with a public phone and a stack of one pound coins) was on my little brother's birthday. I was FINE with this as a impecunious student, but as a mother, I'm very grateful for Face Time.

One thing I had that's still being used by travelers? A Eurailpass. The official Ithaca College/University of Pisa component ended something like ten days before fall classes started, so I hit the rails and began roaming. Scheduling the day meant showing up at the station and reading the times and destinations on a big board. Upon arrival in a new town, I'd check Frommer's Europe on Ten Dollars A Day for suggestions on a pensione, then walk to the place and see if a room was available. I saw Rome, Florence, Nice (where I spent an afternoon topless on a beach!) Monte Carlo and Paris before taking the ferry across the channel to England (no Chunnel yet.)

Except for the fact I flew across the Atlantic and didn't require a chaperone, my first solo trip abroad feels more like the experience an American traveler of the late 19th century than that of my daughter 37 years later. All the time I spent studying maps,haunting information kiosks, waiting in line to talk to a railroad agent, and visiting American Express offices has been  replaced by a smart phone and a debit card. It's easier now, in many ways, but I'm pretty sure one thing hasn't changed: Just as I did, I expect my daughter to come home more mature, more confident, and with a broader view of the horizon.

How about you, Red? What was your first time as an Innocent Abroad?

HALLIE EPHRON: One of my proudest accomplishments has been raising two daughters who are enthusiastic travelers. Jerry and I traveled a lot in the six years after we were married and before we had our first child. We started again with a trip to Puerto Rico when our oldest was 9 months old. When the girls were 8 and 13 we spent 2 weeks in Europe, traveling by train, and whatever you packed to take with you, you had to carry. It was a great trip, including venturing into Prague, before the Velvet Revolution.

My first international trip was to Europe for our honeymoon. We were crazy. Three months with the guy you just married? It's amazing the marriage survived. We rented a Citroen Dayan 6 (that's me with it in the picture -- I'm holding a Michelin Red Guide in the days before GPS), a car so basic it could not be imported into the US. We flew into London, took the train to Paris, rented a car and made our way up to Amsterdam where my husband's college roommate lived, down to Rome via Belgium and Luxembourg and Switzerland, and back through France to Paris. Yes, on $5 (maybe $6) a day per person.

RHYS BOWEN : I wonder if one is born with a travel gene? I had an overwhelming desire to travel from a very early age. I remember my first trips to Wales and Cornwall, what a huge impression they made on me, and begged to go abroad. Finally my parents arranged for me to go to friends in Austria when I was 14. They put me on a train in London. I had to find the right boat, and then the right train on the other side of the Channel. One and a half days in the train (3rd class, hard seats) and I was met at the other end. In those days one did not telephone so I sent my folks a postcard to say I had arrived. If that had been me, I'd have been frantic! Since then going across Europe on my own was a regular event.

Luckily I married a man in the airline business so travel was a big part of our lives. We've been to India several times, Indonesia, Vietnam, all over Australia, and to almost every corner of Europe. I'm writing this from a house in France where we have been entertaining our daughter Clare and her family. We had taken them to England but it's a first trip for the twins to mainland Europe and they are making the most of every minute, including eating snails and sipping red wine (they just turned 16). 

A grown-up Rhys enjoying Nice

Our own children grew up traveling frequently. We always went to England at least once a year, and to other fun places on vacation. They each followed this up with a junior year abroad and then both Clare and Jane went to work in other countries. It was a real growing-up experience for all of them.  And my own travel gene? I have decided I don't need to visit strange and exotic locations. I want to return to places I love. Lots of France and Italy, Switzerland and Austria, and maybe a little taste of Hawaii occasionally.

HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN:  When I was a teenager, my father was in the foreign service--a cultural affairs officer for USIA. When I was a junior in high school, I went visit him and his family for a few weeks in Hamburg, Germany--and ended up spending six months! That summer, and about half of my senior year in high school. So it was total immersion European living--and a life-changing experience.

  I remember one chilling experience: we went into East Berlin, just my fellow 16-year-old foreign service kid pal Allison and I, because my diplomat dad was not allowed to accompany us. Talk about life-changing--it was if the war had just ended, bleak and bombed out, and patrolled by Vopos with snarling German Shepherds. Two cute Jewish girls from America were most definitely not welcomed. 

Checkpoint Charlie, c. 1965

Hank in the 60's

We also went to Amsterdam  and London and Stockholm and it was all amazing and seemed very natural and not touristy--since I lived there, I had to go to the grocery and buy flowers and go to clubs and ride the Ubahn and hang out in parks and not have to DO anything. I learned to speak German pretty well..much of that, sadly is gone, it seems. I attended the International School, so you can imagine the life-broadening experience for a girl from Indiana.  After that, travel never seemed unusual.

Now? It seems like it takes a lot more planning. I'm not sure there is one photo of me there. But here's what I looked like at the time.

LUCY BURDETTE: My first trip abroad was with my family when I was in high school. It was one of those "If it's Tuesday, this must be Belgium" deals. All we kids remember my father freaking out because he was driving around Rome in heavy traffic at night and we couldn't find a room. I also remember feather beds and wiener schnitzel in Switzerland, and desperately wishing for ice in our Coke. I think I've improved as a traveler since those long-ago days! 


JENN McKINLAY: Italy with my mom! A real gal pal trip that included lots of gelato, wine, and art museums. We cherish that trip and the memories made, which includes my mom flagging down the police when she had a beef with the one of the transportation monitors on the city bus! Hiiiilarious! And, yes, I did come back with a fabulous new appreciation of the world, which is why I took the Hooligans to London a few years ago. There is nothing like travel to broaden the horizons.

DEBORAH CROMBIE: My parents took me to Europe the September after I graduated from college (probably because they were so thrilled not to be paying tuition!) Like Lucy's, it was a "if this is Tuesday, it must be Belgium" trip. We started in London, then rented a car in Oxford and did Oxford, Stratford, Bath, Stonehenge, and the Cotswolds. Then across the channel and the train to Paris, Provence, Rome, Florence, Venice. On to Switzerland and Germany, then Amsterdam and finally the ferry back to England for our return flights. 

Eurail pass, American Express Traveler's checks, and Frommer's how many ever dollars a day. I absolutely loved every bit of it, but especially England. Obviously. I lived at home the next nine months, worked and saved money to go back to England on my own, which I did the following June. I had a bus pass and traveled all over England and Scotland, staying in cheap B&Bs, pretty much until my money ran out. I know I have photos somewhere from the first trip, buy I have no idea where! Regardless, it was life altering, in so many ways.

JULIA: How about you, dear readers? What was your first trip abroad? Or your first great solo travel adventure in your own country?