HANK PHILLIPI RYAN:
Okay, risky topic today. Let me just
float some words to you: boost, retweet, opt in, gif, trending, hashtag, algorithm, SEO, likes, unfriend…well, I could
go on. Ten years ago? Some of those words would have been baffling, and others
would have meant something totally different.
How much—I hesitate to ask—has social media changed your life? I am all in for Facebook, Twitter, and
now, Instagram. And email, gee, that’s not even worthy of mention—it’s just how
things are done.
And here’s the
frightening reality. When I put my hand into my purse and don’t instantly feel
the shape of my phone, I honestly have a physical reaction. Of loss, and fear.
That is—how shall I put it—nuts.
But I have recently
fallen in love with author Amy Impellizzeri—she’s smart and wise and a terrific writer. (She’s also a Tall Poppy Writer—have you visited the Facebook page? All readers should, really, it’s a
lovely community and you will be welcomed right in.)
She’s giving away a
copy of her brand new THE TRUTH ABOUT THEA
today—to one lucky commenter. And
we’re commenting today on something that, oh, gosh, not one of us is
susceptible to. Social media addiction. #notme
#I’mfine #Icouldgiveitupanytime
Just say On
Recently, I was on the
planning committee of a group in town that sponsored a community health
workshop on Teen Anxiety and Social Media use.
We brought in a
fabulous speaker - Joni Siani - an educator and filmmaker who supervised her
college students as they documented themselves giving up their cell phones and
social media for a week. The stress and strain the cell detox caused and then
the ultimate liberation most found after the detox was enlightening.
At dinner, the night
before the workshop, Joni entertained the committee with fabulous stories of
social media addiction ... and recovery. I gobbled up every word and nodded
vigorously.
“Yes! I want to detox
from all this chaos too. I want to stop being ruled by my phone and social
media,” I boasted boldly.
I concluded by asking
her for a selfie, requesting her to friend me on Facebook, and promptly posting
and tagging a picture of us together.
Sigh.
I guess I’m not ready
for recovery after all.
I have a true
love/hate relationship with social media. Some days I want to delete all of my
social media accounts as a complete time suck, and other days I’m so grateful
for the needed connection, I can’t imagine living without all that- not even
for a week’s experiment.
It was this love/hate
relationship that first gave rise to the idea behind my latest novel, The
Truth About Thea.
In the novel, a young
woman claiming social media addiction as a defense to a high profile crime ends
up in rehab being treated alongside alcoholics and drug addicts. She claims she
is not like them, and her counselor is tempted to agree.
But then, after weeks
in rehab, she gets her hands on her counselor’s phone after he has set it down,
and she fantasizes about scrolling through a newsfeed for the first time in
weeks. And gradually the reader learns just how big a role social media has had
in this young woman’s life. Addiction, it seems, is an elusive and
difficult predator.
I blame my own social
media use on my work. I need to connect with readers to have a publishing
career. A necessary evil. But it’s more than that, too. Publishing can be a
lonely business and the connection to other writers - and readers- is
sustaining. Necessary. Not evil at all in those moments.
So tell me Reds and readers,
what do you think about social media? A necessarily evil, or not necessarily
evil at all?
(By the way, I’ll be selecting two random commenters to receive
signed copies of The Truth About Thea).
HANK: Ohhh…don’t get
me started. I am over the hill, none, lost to social media. (By the way, if
someone could give me a few quick
Instagram lessons, too, I’d be grateful…I am lurching along trying to
teach myself.)
How about you all? Love, hate, love to hate? Which do you use? Could you completely stop? I
have ridiculously learned that when something happens I can get the scoop from
Twitter first. Ah.
And hurray—THE TRUTH ABOUT THEA to one lucky commenter!
Amy Impellizzeri is a former corporate litigator, start-up
executive, and award-winning author of fiction and non-fiction.
Amy is a frequent invited speaker at Lawyers in
Transition Meetings, annual Bar conferences, and creative writing workshops
across the country. Amy is a member of the Tall Poppy Writers and the Past
President of the Women’s Fiction Writers Association. She is a 2018
Writer-in-Residence at Ms-JD.org.
The Truth About Thea:
The Truth About Thea is a Francis Ford Coppola Winery Books
& Bottles Pick!
About the Book:
Will, a recovering heroin addict-turned-counselor for whom truth
is a championed element to recovery, has a dark secret—shared with no one
outside of his anonymous support meetings. Over twenty years ago, after an
ultimatum from his pregnant ex-wife, Will was forced to assume a new identity
and to fake his own death to get out from under his dealer and user-friends
once and for all.
Now Will is counseling Thea, a young woman who has been
diagnosed with a pathological addiction to creating fake social media
identities, and who founded a start-up company (“Alibis”) that created false
internet identities for clients, many with suspect pasts. Thea’s addiction has
landed her in rehab as a condition of her parole—after a plea bargain cut short
a court case that would have put both Thea and Alibis on trial for a very
high-profile crime.
As Will counsels Thea, the past is on a collision course with
the present. Both Will’s, and his young client’s, fast-held secrets start to
unravel... and reveal, at long last, the truth about Thea.



















