JULIA SPENCER-FLEMING: You may have missed the news in the comments section, but our own Celia Wakefield's beloved husband Victor died this past month, at home in bed, at the age of 98. He led an amazing and rich live in his almost-century, and this morning, instead of a recipe, Celia is sharing a few - there are so many! - Victor stories.
It's Julia's week which seems to
say it’s Celia's Sunday. Julia suggested that while I had written so much about
my own childhood perhaps it was time to tell some of Victor’s early
tales.
Where to start? Of course, how
did we meet? I had recently joined IBM UK and was at the Data Processing
Christmas Party held in the pub across the road from IBM UK HQ. (IBM was a dry
company worldwide, in fact they were ahead of the current trend). I was feeling
very nervous finding myself a part of a group around the managing director (UK
speak - CEO). Someone came and stood between my friend Audrey and me. “Hello, Vic”
said Audrey and introduced us. However, Victor told a different tale. He always
insisted he had seen me from across the room and asked who I was. On being told
I was a new secretary - "and I hadn't a boy friend," Victor like to
add as he replied then, "Well she does now!" Knowing the person he
had been speaking with I disagree. There are some things one didn’t discuss at
work. But you be the judge as to which version seems most likely.
Victor grew up in circumstances
very different from mine. He was a life-long asthmatic. This served him well as
he turned eighteen in 1944. He was called up to fight in the Second World War,
but due to his health was never sent to the front. Instead, he was placed in
British counter intelligence. On testing he proved adept at foreign language,
so was learning Japanese when the war ended. As he still had to complete his three
years of national service, he was posted first to India, where the saying was,
“Those who hold the Red Fort (large military complex in Delhi) hold India.” The
transfer from British to self rule was, as Victor wrote, “A turbulent and
terrible time.” The work involved retraining of thousands of jobs done by the
British now to be done by the Indians. Victor spoke very little of his actual
work. I would imagine he had to keep listening for possible sedition but I have
no proof.
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The scanned version is scratched, alas...
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Victor loved to talk about his
seven sweeps of the scythe. Opportunities which might have ended in disaster
but from which he was saved by unexpected help. Here is one that has disaster
written all over it. After the monsoon season Victor heard of a remote hilly
area where a profusion of spectacularly colored butterflies hatched only at
that time of year. Riding on a narrow dirt road he veered too close to the edge
over a deep drop into the ravine below. His motorbike swerved off the path and
hung over the drop. He was stuck. The bike was army issue so losing it was out
of the question, but it was heavy and there was no way to maneuver it back onto
the path. Then his luck changed.
Along the path came two Indian men who, seeing
Victors predicament, ran to him and were able to lift the bike and pull Victor
back to safety.
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The screen shot version is blurry!
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From India Victor was posted to
Nairobi, Kenya. Among his responsibilities was teaching the “Kenyan Askaris” to
be smart and effective soldiers, which included learning how to ride
motor-cycles. This involved a lot of merriment on the troops account. They
referred to the motor-cycles as piki-piki, in Swahili from the motor-cycle
sound.
Victor had several adventures or
Swipes in Kenya. I think this one scared him the most. One night he drove his
jeep into the bush to look at the stars. Turning off his headlights to scan the
heavens, he was horrified to find he was being watched by hundreds of pairs of
eyes. Reversing quickly, headlights on again, he fled back to civilization.
Victor was a man of many talents
and hobbies. He liked to tell friends that he had been active all his life from
the early gift of a bicycle from a Canadian soldier. He rode miles over the
South Downs above Brighton. He loved to play tennis and one friend wrote of his
determination to win (though in a most gentleman like manner.) He had great
pleasure trying to play with our grandson in 2021 even though it was hard to
swoop around the court as he had in the past.
His retirement work centered
around mechanical clock repair and rebuilding until he had his cataracts
removed, which altered his shortsightedness. He was an avid gamer, researching
century old games which he would build to play with kids. He was a clown. Yes,
he went to clown school! He was a photographer and returned to the immediate
pleasure it gave him through his iPad - instant gratification. He would take
photos of breaking news on the TV. I think this helped him to cement the event
as he knew his memory was failing.
Victor and I bonded over my love
of the Beatles whose lyrics he told me reminded him of Elizabethan madrigals.
We loved music, particularly classical, and Victor studied and played an Alto
recorder with our daughter Olivia, who played the soprano version before
switching to flute. He was a founding member of the Recorder Group here at the
senior college at USM. Looking back on our almost 60 years together I realize
he has left me a gift. Time to spend now on pursuing some other interests of my
own - though I know I shall still be cooking. In fact, I am finding that
cooking for one isn’t as bad as I thought, so perhaps that will be my topic if
Julia invites me next time.
JULIA: Oh, you know there will be a next time! Dear readers, what are some of your stories about loved ones now passed?