Saturday, March 21, 2026

Me Time.

 RHYS BOWEN: As most of you know, I'm finding myself more and more involved with my husband's health issues. He's 92, has had a bad fall and our lives seem to be dominated by doctor visits, picking up meds and deciding what he can eat. The problem is that I don't like to leave him for too long as he's a bit wobbly these days and won't use his walker or cane all the time.

A few days ago I had a mini-escape. My daughter Clare had spring break and we got a day pass to a local hotel pool.  We lay in the shade and read, stood in the chest deep pool and talked, sat in the hot tub and ordered lunch and a cocktail.  It was heavenly.

And it made me realize how important ME TIME is.


I'm wondering what other Reds and Reddies do when they want to escape, decompress and recharge? For me the pool is one of the most important. To lie in pleasantly warm water, weightless, looking up at palm trees, recharges me rapidly.  My favorite would be a beach. Just wandering along the edge of the waves, finding shells, watching sea birds brings me great peace and contentment. Alas Arizona is not near any ocean.  

When I am back in California I go to a little beach on the San Francisco Bay. It's called China Camp and was a settlement when the Chinese were driven out of the city a century ago. So a couple of old shacks and a perfect little cove.  It's only about fifteen minutes from my house. I buy a year pass and go whenever i need to get away and think. It's great for plotting out the next scene of a book or just letting my mind wander before I come back to real life.



What else do I do? I have regular massages. Love them. A spa day is a real treat. But I don't do many of the things my friends do to feel relaxed and special. Manicures? No. I have tried. I come out looking glamorous and in two days I've chipped half my nails.  I do like pedicures. It's fun to change toe nail colors in the summer.

Facials? I've tried. I lie there with pads on my eyes while soothing herbals blends are stroked into my skin and I think, "I must remember to get more eggs on the way home."  Or... In that scene I just wrote she shouldn't say she's angry.  I find myself writing to do lists. And begrudging the time all these substances on my face are taking.

I'm not good with meditation either. I try to relax and think of nothing.  Impossible. I try to picture myself floating on a cloud or lying on a calm ocean. And start writing the to do lists again, or rewriting my last chapter.

I've tried sound baths. They don't seem to work either.  Actually, now I think about it, the best way to relax is to have lunch with good friends. Lots of laughter, memories, encouragement. 

So what suggestions do you have for me at this moment? Quick little re-charge sessions?

Friday, March 20, 2026

My bucket List

 RHYS BOWEN: Last fall I flew to England to join my college friends in a reunion. We’ve been getting together regularly over the years. At first it was every five years, then every three, then two and now we are reaching our sell-by date it’s every one.

These are old broads by any definition but some of us are still living our best lives. I stayed for a few days before the reunion with my friend Evelyn. She was married to an international consultant and they traveled a lot. He died a few years ago but Evelyn keeps on traveling. Last year it was a cruise that started in Indonesia and went up through Asia and around Japan. When we were together she said she had booked to travel the Silk Road. I looked surprised. Why? She said she’d just read a book about it and was curious. And so in November she did.

This was no easy travel. Bumpy roads, crossing strange borders. But she had a great time, (apart from too many mosques, she told me).


That made me think: where do I still want to go that I haven’t been? I’m trying to be realistic and know that I can’t do the hike around Mont Blanc, which I had always wanted to do. I’ve been to a lot of Asia and don’t want that nineteen hour flight again. I had always wanted to do an African safari but wonder if my back can take the jolting of a jeep over rough ground. 

So what could still be on my bucket list? I’d always wanted to do a canal boat trip through France. I know France well, have been all over and love to go back, especially to the south. Ditto for Italy. I’ve never been to Puglia so that could be a future trip. And also Switzerland. I love the Alps and would happily ride trains all over Switzerland. But anything more exotic?  I’ve never been up the Amazon. Or to Peru.  I don’t think I’d tackle Machu Pichu and the altitude.  I find more and more that I long to go back to the familiar: Cornish fishing villages, Villefranche Sur Mer, Venice, Tuscany.  As long as I can keep traveling it’s fine with me.

How about you, Reds? What’s on your bucket lists?

JULIA SPENCER-FLEMING: I’m like you, Rhys, in that there are places I once had on my list that time has crossed off for me. I’m not making that hike up to Machu Piccu either!

I’d love to do luxury train trips: the Orient Express, the Andean Explorer in Peru, the new Brittanic Explorer which goes through Cornwall and Wales. I’d love to visit Asia and southeast Asia: Korea, China, Singapore, Malaysia. If I could find some sort of guided tour based around eating, that would be heaven!

I’ve long wanted to see Kashmir, but I suppose that’s out of reach until India and Pakistan reach an amiable agreement, so… a hundred years from now?

The Adriatic Sea from Albania and Montenegro, before everyone catches on and starts going there.




But honestly, the vacations that most appeal to me these days involve a sunny beach, a stack of books, and a waiter bringing me lunch and pineapple drinks!

RHYS: Julia, we were lucky enough to visit Kashmir while it was still open. Such a glorious place.

HALLIE EPHRON: This is hard, because my Jerry was THE best traveling companion. I’m so much less adventurous without him. Our last trips were to Peru (Yes, Machu Pichu!) and Panama. I’d always hoped we could get to Texas for the whooping crane migration. 

On my own, now, or dragging along a daughter or two, I’d be up for one of the small river boat cruises of eastern Europe.

JENN McKINLAY: I’m still up for anything but my short dream list is Iceland, Japan, and Kenya. On the immediate actually happening list is Spain, Portugal, and the Azores.

The Hooligans are fabulous travelers—curious, helpful, and independent so they have their own lists. It’ll be fun to see where their adventures take them and if I can hitch a ride. LOL. 

DEBORAH CROMBIE: My parents went to Machu Pichu, Rhys, but it has never been on my bucket list. There are so many places in England that I still want to visit, and many that I want to revisit. And I have never been to Ireland! My kiddos are going for a week's tour over spring break and I'm very jealous. I want to go back to Paris and the south of France. I want to stay in a Tuscan villa and drink wine. I'd love to do one of those European river cruises, too. I feel very dull compared to Jenn!

HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: Oxford, Oxford, Oxford. I have never been there, and I cannot believe it. I would hop on a plane right now if I could. And then Ireland.  And then a river cruise, although I am always hearing the people get sick.

Debs, I am here to tell you that staying in a Tuscan villa and drinking wine is ALL its cracked up to be. Fabulous in every way. I’d like to go back to Paris and just live there, with no tourist responsibilities

RHYS: All the above are so doable, Hank. Please go while you and Jonathan are still young and healthy enough to enjoy them!

LUCY BURDETTE: We are in the airport right now after a 12 hour delay so it’s a little hard to answer this question lol. But I will anyway. Iceland and Japan, yes. And now I know that Jenn would be a fabulous traveling companion. Among other good qualities, she can reach anything on the top shelf and put a bag in the overhead Compartment without breaking a sweat.  More France, more Scotland and England, and definitely Switzerland. I feel like I should go to Germany because a lot of my ancestors came from that area. I’m delighted to hear that Rhys and her buddies intend to keep traveling! I am in.

RHYS: So my message to all you Reddies out there. Don't put off travel until you finds it's too late. I know the world is crazy at the moment but let's hope soon sanity will be restored and the world will be our oyster again. Where do you want to go?

Thursday, March 19, 2026

Rhys is Battling Scams.

 RHYS BOWEN:  If you are a fellow author you will identify with this post. I am currently being driven crazy with fake offers to feature my books.  From pretend book clubs ( my favorite so far was the Manhattan book club), fake trailers, etc.  Below are some of the offers I received this week.

Sometimes I try writing back, saying that they don't need my permission to feature my book. Book clubs do it all the time. When I am in a bad mood I reply why the hell would I choose an unknown, unproven source to promote my books. And an even worse mood : You are not Sandra Smith. You are Mr. Mboko in Nigeria. Shame on you.

But nothing seems to deter them. And my worry is that I'll miss a real offer from a lovely book club, who'd like to chat with me, or a real invite to a podcast. I have to point out some are so real that I'm almost taken in. I got an offer from Traci Thomas, whose podcast Stacks is very popular. It sounded real enough but... I ran it by my publicist who responded instantly "that's not Traci's address."

I suppose there are enough self published authors desperate enough to pay someone to "spotlight" their book. Spotlight seems to be the red light. It appears often in their posts. 

Dear Ms. Bowen,
I hope you are doing well.
I am sending one last brief note to see if you would be open to a featured spotlight for From Cradle to Grave with The Metro Philadelphia Book Club. Our members have a strong appreciation for historical mysteries that combine rich atmosphere and wit, and we would be honored to feature your work within our community.
If this opportunity is of interest to you, please let me know and I will gladly provide the next steps and submission details.
Thank you again for your time and for the wonderful stories you share with your readers.
Warm regards,
Paul 
Organizer 
The Metro Philadelphia Book Club

My name is Maren Jovita, and I specialize in connecting authors with engaged readers through curated book clubs and structured reading challenges.
Your book, Vanished in the Crowd: A Molly Murphy Mystery, immediately caught my attention. The setting of New York during the vibrant 1909 Hudson-Fulton celebration creates a fascinating backdrop for mystery and intrigue. 


Dear Rhys Bowen,
I hope you’re doing well. I just wanted to follow up briefly on my earlier message regarding our invitation for you to be featured in The European Book Club Author Spotlight for [Her Royal Spyness]. From Marie Jeff.

Dear Rhys,
I review your book Mrs. Endicott's Splendid Adventure, and I truly admire the resilience and courage you bring to Ellie Endicott’s story. Navigating betrayal in pre-WWII England while forging a new path filled with friendship and love creates a rich and emotionally engaging narrative that resonates deeply with readers.
As I read through the overview, I could easily envision how this story could translate into a cinematic trailer. The blend of personal reinvention, suspense, and the charm of 1930s England provides a strong visual and emotional hook that would immediately immerse viewers in Ellie’s journey.
As head staff editor at Lakewood Publishers, I work with authors to create cinematic trailer concepts that highlight the heart and drama of their stories. 

Tailored Media is currently identifying select titles for our upcoming production cycle, and Vanished in the Crowd: A Molly Murphy Mystery has been flagged for its high cinematic potential. Our department specializes in developing high-caliber trailers that bridge the gap between regional publication and a dominant global digital presence, ensuring your narrative carries the visual authority required for today’s market.

To demonstrate the impact of our creative approach, we have developed a professional trailer script specifically for this book. This concept is engineered to capture international audiences within the first few seconds of engagement, visualizing the grandeur of the 1909 Hudson-Fulton celebration and the electric atmosphere of New York City as it clashes with the "sinister" disappearance of a brilliant scientist, providing a scalable asset for both regional and global marketing campaigns.

Would you like us to send the script over so you can get a feel for the cinematic vision we have for your work?

Best regards.

Jeffrey Eben,
Creative Director | Tailored Media
https://tailoredmedia.co.uk/
Signal: +1 (458) 331-3006
Sophisticated Media for the Discerning Eye
Gunnery House, 9‑11 Gunnery Terrace
Royal Arsenal, LONDON SE18 6SW, UK

Note from Rhys: his email address was another country and that is not a British phone number.


My friend Lee Goldberg has great fun with his scam emails. He gets them from fake famous authors, like James Patterson. He writes back outlandish things. Dear Tana : I'm surprised you still want to talk to me after what happened. I want you to know that the rape charge was dropped but I am still in jail.

To a male writer he wrote, "You have a nerve to contact me after what you did to my wife."


The funniest one was when he got an email from fake Rhys Bowen.  Now I know I've arrived!!!

So how do my fellow authors deal with this constant annoyance? I now just delete but they keep following up three or four times. 

We're mystery writers. Can we come up with a fiendish way to send poisonous spiders through the internet to them???