HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: You are SO wise to visit here today! I mean, what’s Jungle Red for if not to tell you absolutely every thing you’d ever need to know?
And today, the amazing KJ Howe—you
know Kimberley Howe, right, the absolutely unstoppable force behind
Thrillerfest, and the knower of EVERY author in the world, organizer
extraordinaire and totally fabulous person (not to mention gorgeous so I’ll
leave that out)—gives us the fascinating inside scoop on a skill you may
never have to use.
But if you do—we’ve got your backs.
And you will thank us. We hope you don’t have to, of course. But better to be
prepared. Plus, this is pretty amazing.
By K.J. Howe
Do you love travel and adventure? Both pastimes are at the top of my
list. But it’s key to realize
that along with the joy of new experiences, there are some risks you need to
mitigate when globetrotting. After all, you don’t want to be starring alongside
Halle Berry in Kidnap or spending time in captivity with Goldie Hawn and
Amy Schumer in Snatched.
I’ve spent the past four years
immersed in the world of kidnap and ransom, researching the subject matter for
my Freedom Broker series. It gives one pause thinking how you might react if
you were kidnapped. After
researching and working with some of the best hostage negotiators in the world,
I—along with several my experts—am delighted to offer advice on how to stay
safe during a kidnapping.
FIVE TOP TIPS
If you ever have the misfortune of
being abducted, it’s critical to be prepared for every eventuality. In fact,
following the lessons in these five points could be key to your survival.
1.When you’re first kidnapped,
remain calm and offer no resistance. The abduction is one of the most dangerous
moments during a kidnapping, so your captors will be on edge. They will
immediately want to establish their dominance, so be prepared for harsh or
forceful treatment. To maintain control, your captors might also drug,
blindfold, or gag you. Don’t panic, they want to keep you alive and healthy so
they can secure your ransom.
Gary Noesner, former FBI Hostage
Negotiator offers this sage advice: “Never try to negotiate for yourself while
being held captive. Know that despite what the kidnappers may say, your
family and/or employer is working diligently on your behalf to effect your safe
and timely release.” If you are able, try to remember the details of your
journey so you have a sense of where you are being held.
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| KJ Howe--not attempting to escape, we hope |
Peter Moore, a former hostage held
almost 1,000 days in Iraq, says: “Humanize yourself and build a rapport with
your captors. Start small with
getting different foods, and build up from there.”
You want the kidnappers to see you
as a person rather than a dehumanized victim. Bond with them so you will
receive better treatment. To maintain your strength, eat and drink everything
you are given. Establish a routine, as you may be in captivity for a long time.
Keep yourself clean and exercise every day. Boredom is your enemy, so keep your
mind active by taking on a mental project, like building your dream house or
writing a book in your head.
3. Maintaining hope is critical
during a kidnapping. Remember that your loved ones will be working hard for
your release. Remain positive knowing the vast majority of hostages survive.
“It is extremely rare for a hostage
in a kidnap for ransom case to be killed—it becomes a bad business model for
the kidnappers,” says Noesner. “Their goal is to obtain money, plain and
simple, and that is less likely when they kill the hostage. If they
killed a hostage after securing the money, future victim families will
stop paying money, seeing it as ineffective.”
This is not the time to be demanding
and difficult. Try to blend in with other captives and avoid being
confrontational.
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| Elephant takes KJ Howe's hat hostage. Note: she is not panicking |
5. During a rescue, make sure you
drop to the ground, spread your arms, hands open and flat on the floor. Grimm
says, “Expect to be treated as a suspected hostage taker. You may be restrained and treated in
a forceful manner.” Do not move
voluntarily, even if you think the action has stopped. Follow the rescuers’
instructions without hesitation until you are safe again.
Again, Noesner stresses the
importance of negotiation during the kidnapping: "Remember that kidnap for
ransom is a crime in which both parties, the kidnappers and the
family/corporation, both want the same outcome, the release of the
hostage. The kidnappers want money but can only sell the hostage to one
entity, therefore the family or corporation has some measure of control over
the outcome. Simply put, the kidnappers need the good guys to pay.
Resolving a kidnap requires a thoughtful quid pro quo negotiation
process to be effective.”
By following these rules, you will
stand a better chance of surviving your kidnap. It’s best to resist fight or
flight and remain as calm and collected as you possibly can.
Wishing you safe travels and many
adventures—and I hope you’ll never need the advice above, but learning
protective measures is always a good idea for any Jungle Red globetrotters!
HANK PHILLIPPI RYAN: Ah. Well. Okay,
then, Always good to be prepared. Yeesh.
“First, don’t panic.” Working on that.
Kimberley, you are amazing! Tell us
about your book! And Reds—let’s talk about—Kidnapping. What are your “favorite”
(yeesh) kidnapping books or movies? Method 15/30? Taken? Ransom?
And a copy of THE FREEDOM BROKER to
one lucky commenter!
K.J. Howe is the executive director of Thrillerfest, the annual conference of International Thriller
Writers. She is an avid traveler who has raced camels in Jordan, surfed in
Hawaii, and dove with the great whites in South Africa. She became fascinated
by the kidnap and ransom (K&R) world after meeting Peter Moore, a British
computer consultant who became the longest-held hostage in Iraq and the only
person to survive of the five men who were taken that day. The Freedom Broker
is her debut novel.
Skyjack, publishing in April 2018, is the next book in her
kidnap and ransom series featuring hostage negotiator Thea Paris. She is also a
member of Rogue Women Writers.
















