HALLIE EPHRON: As mystery writers, it's a given that we write about death.
This comes with the warning: Respect death! DON'T allow your characters to make light of death or reduce it to a plot point. Even (and especially!) when you're writing an amateur sleuth
We're supposed to engage and entertain even as the body count mounts.
Gerri Lewis comes at this challenge with with exceptional credentials and hard-earned sensitivity to the reality of death.
Her second "Deadly Deadlines" mystery (Grave Words, dropping June 10) features Winter Snow, an obituary writer who is as equipped to investigate deaths as Gerri herself is to write about them.
GERRI LEWIS: The comments I get about the character (Winter Snow) in my Deadly Deadlines Mystery series sometimes pile up faster than a publisher’s slush pile.
So, you probably want to know what a nice girl like me is doing writing about obituaries?
Writers crave praise like a chocoholic needs a daily fix because those validations can be the confidence boost it takes to write the next word. And yet, the greatest writing compliments I've ever received didn't come from the many awards and accolades I've accumulated during my career as a journalist.
The compliments I treasure come from people like the father of a young man who was barely out of his teens when he died in a car accident. The dad had pulled a yellowing news clip from his pocket and told a crowd of a hundred people at my library talk that an obit I had written had brought their family comfort.
Sometimes praise is unexpected like that from the family of a young woman who committed suicide. They used the obit to notify long distance acquaintances. Then there was the obituary I wrote about a 101-year-old woman whose family never realized that one of the many quilts she created sits in a museum.
Since the early years of my writing career when I was first sent by our local newspaper to write obituaries, I’ve become a go-to person in my community to help people tell the stories.
What I’ve learned is that obituaries aren’t only end-of-life notices. They facilitate acceptance for those grieving. They immortalize a person for their earthly accomplishments. They will live in genealogical and historical documents, community memory and on the internet for perpetuity.
I think of an obituary writer as the keeper of the collective conscience.
Not to mention, obituaries are great fodder for mystery writers.
And so, meet obit writer Winter Snow, the protagonist in my debut mystery, The Last Word, and my second book, Grave Words, releasing June 10. Winter is a 29-year-old former reporter forced to take a buy out when the paper was taken over by a large conglomerate.
I can’t think of anyone better to go through the growing pains of writing than a person who must balance the seriousness of her job with the humor she finds along the way. And who better than Winter and her friends to happen upon the deadly mysteries set in my charming hometown of Ridgefield.
If "write what you know" is an author’s mantra, I can tell you that I’ve written many obituaries. Incorporating the things I’ve learned into Winter’s character and nudging her fledgling business along while offering something sinister is great fun.
If Marie Kondo can find joy in my messy closet, then Winter Snow can find joy in writing obits.
Did the deceased survive two pandemics and two world wars?
Did they like potato chips?
Or secretly write poetry? Which makes Winter wonder—what other secrets did they have?
Obituaries are also a great segue into many other aspects of a story. How do you share historical fact without sounding like a history lesson?
In THE LAST WORD, Winter is asked to write obituaries for three Revolutionary War soldiers whose remains were found when a renovation turned to an excavation on a Main Street property in Ridgefield.
Funeral parlors, caskets and wakes are all good ways for Winter and her friend Carla, a funeral home director, to balance the somber with humor.
Ask yourself. Would you climb into a casket to hide from a potential murderer?
So why did a nice girl like me pick an obituary writer as a protagonist? Maybe because life stories matter. Besides, as Winter would shrug her shoulders and say, “it’s a living.”
HALLIE: Gerri will be here today to talk about her high wire act, incorporating (respectfully) suspicious deaths into a page turner with an amateur sleuth at the helm.
Writing about someone's life surely is a most important responsibility.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, Gerri, on your new book . . . I'm looking forward to reading it [and seeing how Winter manages to write an obituary for a Revolutionary War soldier] . . . .
It's an amazing challenge...
DeleteIt's a challenge to make those obits worthy, but fun. Thanks Joan and Hallie
DeleteWho is the cover artist / designer?
ReplyDeleteMy publisher, Crooked Lane, commissions the artist and so I've never met him. My first book in the series did receive a recognition for the cover in the Best Book Awards. I'm told that the artwork is what tells reader what the genre is! Can you guess because I think this one has COZY written all over it!
DeleteGerri, congratulations on book #2 in your series. It must be exciting at this point in your series, to introduce new characters who may appear in future books. Tell us about some of the other characters in your series.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how obituaries used to be handled in our local paper, but now they are advertisements that the family writes and pays for by the inch. The paper only writes obits for the famous or the notorious, otherwise, ordinary folks must tell their own stories, then pay to see them in print.
That's the same here. A true "obituary" requires that the person had some notoriety in their lifetime. Otherwise the family writes death notices... or at least that's how it works here... and they pay for the posting.
DeleteObits are handled that way in our paper too. When I was a reporter, I used to be sent out on them, but now--all different. I'm often asked to write them because it's a big ask for a bereaved family to come up with something meaningful.
DeleteNew characters: Well Carla was in the first book--she's a gum smacking, inked up funeral home director and I loved learning more about her!
This is such a super premise, Gerri. Congratulations on the new book!
ReplyDeleteMy Quaker Meeting had a workshop on end of life concerns, and one exercise was to write our own obituary, no matter how old we were. For those of us with partners we joined up with later in life who might not know things about our younger days, writing our own story is a great way to be sure what you want mentioned is. Except I never finished mine! It's on the perennial to-do list, sigh.
Sounds like a good chore to leave unfinished.
DeleteWhen I pitched my book and had to send an obit, I actually wrote my own obituary (I took a little writer's leeway with adding that I was the best selling author of the Deadly Deadlines Mystery series!!). My agent wasn't sure it was a great idea, but he went with it. I just thought it was fun. Anyway, my publisher liked it. My advice--because it is hard to write your own obituary, just make a list of all the things you'd like someone to know about you and leave it with your end of life documents. I applaud your Quaker group for emphasizing the importance of it. I love that.
DeleteGerri, we love that you wrote you were the best selling author of Deadly Deadlines Mystery series!
DeleteThere was that hold your breath moment when my agent pushed send. In the end, I credit him for supporting me.
DeleteGerri, thank you for that good work. I'm a clergyperson who has accompanied so many, many families through the expected and unexpected days of loss and, yes, the gift of a caring obituary writer is a treasure for many years. And I will definitely be reading your book (first one first).
ReplyDeleteWow, I am impressed and really applaud your approach as a clergy person. Thank you for your nice words.
DeleteI’ve written obituaries for family members which were then submitted to the paper by the funeral home. We paid 50 cents PER WORD to have them published. It would be an interesting task to write one for someone I didn’t know.
ReplyDeleteYou and your series are new to me. I will add it to my goodreads and check my library to see about getting caught up with the backlist after I read this one.
It's sad to think of all the lives that go unrecorded for lack of 50 cents a word.
DeleteThank you Brenda. I think it's hard to write obituaries regardless of whether they are for someone you love or someone you don't know. I have some crazy stories about my experiences. You must have a gift if you are the go to person in your family to write them. Nowadays, obituaries can cost up to $1000 if you get too wordy. The last one I did, we cut it down to about 300 words to bring the cost down!
DeleteI am the go-to person because I am the grammar police. I should probably get my own obit written now and have it on file.
DeleteHa! We all need grammar police. Now I'll be creeped out just a wee bit thinking that you are looking over my shoulder!!! Seriously though, at least write down what you want people to know about you. I think of what we write while alive as living legacies. It makes us less uncomfortable.
DeleteI’m not quite awake this morning. Just went to goodreads and face palm…you did say this was the second in the series. I will just start at the beginning as that is my preferred method.
ReplyDeleteAlso, is Gerri Lewis your real name? Are you named after the comedian, Jerry Lewis? That thought puts the whole conversation about taking death seriously in a new light.
Brenda, you made me smile. I wasn't even awake at 6:51 as I'm nursing a retina problem and told to rest! Who knows how to do that? Yes, Gerri Lewis is my real name. My parents only gave me Geri, which the adamant nurses changed to Gerri. Lewis is my married name and I've had my share of Dean Martin questions. It does make my name memorable so for an author I guess that's a good thing. I really hope you like The Last Word--let me know--you can reach me via my website, gerrilewis.com.
DeleteAn aside: so Jerry Lewis's comedic partner Dean Martin's daughter's name is Deana Martin. Not sure why that's relevant but there you have it.
DeleteDo you know what's funny? I go to a lot of book clubs and the younger groups never ever make Dean Martin jokes. The older groups, it's like their number one question--How's Dean?
DeleteGERRI: a few questions to start.
ReplyDeleteDid you peruse the local paper's archives when you first started writing obitaries?
Was there a memorable one you read? Did the local paper staff offer any advice or did you have to figure it out on your own?
I remember writing my mom's obituary & submitting it by email to the Toronto Star newspaper in 2003. Of course, lots of people my parents' age got the paper home delivered every day and scanned through the obits. I never did though. Maybe it's a generational thing?
I am sure there is also a story about how you chose Winter as your sleuth's name, right?
Great premise for a mystery series. I will search for your books.
Hi Grace: When I first started writing obits, I was very green and I wish I could go back and do them better. I kind of followed what our paper did and I was very lucky that our editor was passionate about obituaries. He's passionate about graves as well and whenever he travels he visits local cemeteries. As I got sent on more assignments, I realized how valuable the last words said were to the family. They agonized over every sentence. So I just kept making the sentences better and better -- adding details that personalized them. I have a journalism background and my favorite professor was demanding when it came to not burying the lede. So, I learned to put something interesting up front. I like reading The NY Times obits--the longer ones are pretty interesting. I hate when there is nothing in them to tell me what the person did in their lives--that just makes me feel like filling in the blanks.
DeleteI wanted my character to have a memorable name--and no matter who you are writing an obit for, it is the bleakest day of their lives--hence Winter. Snow because I know a woman whose last name is Snow and she has a light up the room kind of smile.
Fascinating insights, Gerri - thanks
DeleteWelcome Gerri. Love the premise and as you know I've read both books and enjoyed them.
ReplyDeleteThank you Dru Ann--that means a lot coming from you.
DeleteCongrats, Gerri. Like others, my family has had to pay for obits. Which is a shame, because it's not only the "famous" people in a community who have stories to tell.
ReplyDeleteSo true Liz. In fact, I think the most interesting obituaries are about the people we know nothing about.
DeleteThough occasionally I've seen the apparently family-written obituary that reads more like an act of revenge than tribute.
DeleteOh my gosh! Hallie, I love that--that definitely has to be in my next book.
DeleteCongratulations, Gerri! This sounds like a promising series--something completely unexpected, but also something we are (mostly) all familiar with. We've had to write and pay for obits, too. It's always interesting to see how other family member's obituaries are written--what history they include and what they leave out! Lots of fodder for murder mysteries!
ReplyDeleteWriting obits for a family member can be full of potholes ready to swallow you up. ALways best to share the drafts and tweak to spare feelings and make sure everyone gets mentioned who should be.
DeleteThank you Flora. It's interesting that you should say "what they leave out." Some people are afraid to give details about a persons life, but I don't think we should be. Everyone in my family knows I love to write, love to read, adore my family--why shouldn't we share what gives our lives meaning. That's why you need to leave a list of what you want included in your last words with your end of life papers.
DeleteHallie is so right. A second set of eyes is important. I had someone leave out a relative once--they did it on purpose. I suggested it wasn't a good idea, but they were adamant. So began a new feud in the family. Writing an obit can be cathartic for a loved one, but a second set of eyes is critical.
DeleteGerri, was the relative left out because that relative committed murder and received the death penalty? I am trying to imagine WHY a relative would be left out. Or that relative had a disability that the family did not want anyone to know about.
DeleteI used the obituary of a character in a novella to show the divide between a person's first wife and children to the second wife and children. In this case, names were left out and others were misremembered--not deliberately, but showing the lack of connection between the two groups.
DeleteFlora (bottom Anon above)
DeleteIn the case I'm thinking of, the family disliked a second wife. They thought she was a gold digger (I feel a plot coming on here.). In another case, the person doing the writing simply forgot. The left out person thought it intentional because "she never liked me." Keep that next of kin list short is my advice. Cover everyone else with survived by many loving relatives and friends. I like that novella idea of showing the lack of connection between two groups. Were they feuding?
DeleteGerri, thanks for asking. They weren't feuding--the first wife died suddenly, the second wife was interested in her own well-being and that of her offspring. The story revolves around a daughter of the first wife--her need to see to her siblings, to take care of the household, and how, if ever, to have a life of her own.
DeleteWelcome, Gerri! Your series sounds compelling, and I will definitely look forward to reading Winter Snow's (great name) adventures. Writing an obituary is an act of respect, I think, similar to the remarks made at a funeral, often by a priest or minister who never actually met the deceased. It's easy to get it all wrong.
ReplyDeleteMy family has a rich history with death, weird as that may seem, as my grandfather was the sexton of the Catholic cemetery in my hometown. He and Grandma lived in the caretaker's house on the edge of the graveyard, and every Sunday afternoon of my childhood was spent there. For several years, my family lived on the other side of the other cemetery, which was across the street from the one Grandpa oversaw, so I spent my teenage years walking through it, and nursing my sore heart at the lovely pond some days. I've never been scared by the dead, luckily. It was always kind of comforting to be surrounded by the peaceful, hushed graves and monuments. So much history and so many stories represented there.
Beautiful, Karen - I've only come to appreciate cemeteries recently... visiting a grave can be very satisfying and heartening.
DeleteKaren, I love that story. I too like walked around in cemeteries. When I was a teen there was a really old one near our house and I like imagining the stories behind graves dating back to the 1800's.
DeleteWe also have a small family plot on our Kentucky farm that dates back to the late 1800's. We've only owned the place since 2008, so it's not our family buried there, and the man whose family it was may have himself passed away. He used to call every year about this time to ask for permission to come and tend the graves, but he has not called for several years. It's in a pretty spot, midway down a very long hill, under a beautiful oak tree, overlooking the creek valley and the farm across the valley from it. I suspect there had been a house near there, in the Civil War era.
DeleteOff to a memorial for a friend whose wife died recently. Her obituary was a work of art.
DeleteSo sorry for your friend's loss. Never an easy time. I'd love to see the work of art obituary.
DeleteGerri, your obit writer stories are so interesting sounding and bring a wonderful memory of my Father. As a retail store owner in a small town he needed to keep up with the obituary column…daily…to know which new widow would come shopping for black widow’s weeds and which customers should not be greeted with a hearty “great day”. It was his ritual to read the obituaries each evening before pouring Mother and himself a cocktail. “Just checking the obits, first, dear. Don’t want to waste the liquor if I died today.” Will be getting your books for theTBR pile. Elisabeth
ReplyDeleteElisabeth, I never thought of that for a retail store owner. I also like your Dad's had a sense of humor! Meanwhile, that's another change in mourning. People don't necessarily wear black. Speaking of reading obits, I wrote one for my mother-in-law and the paper erred by putting my name in instead of hers. I used that in my second book and one of the people leaving comments said, "that could never happen." Well, actually...
ReplyDeleteGerri, congratulations on your second novel! I love the name Winter Snow - no idea why this reminded me of Snow White. I look forward to reading your books! The dog on the cover is beyond adorable!
ReplyDeleteQuestion: Did anyone write their own obituary Before they die? Sometimes when I read an obituary in the paper, I wonder if the deceased wrote their own obituary because of the language and the information.
Diana
Diana, What a great question. Yes, many people write their own obituaries. I've written my own, although with three children who are all writers, I imagine it will be well edited! I always encourage people to at least write down the things they want people to know about them. A friend of mine, former editor of our newspaper, recently gave an entire workshop on writing your own obit. By the way, the dog in the book and on the cover is Diva, and based on the Great Pyrenees I used to have.
DeleteCongratulations on your soon to be second release. I worked as a probate paralegal for more than 20 years and reading the obits were part of the job. I still read them daily. Wonderful slices of lives well lived, and sometimes humor.
ReplyDeleteKait, that sounds like an interesting job. I didn't realize that the obituary would be part of probate, but now that you mention it...
DeleteWhen my sister died we put obits in three different cities' papers since our family had moved around. Just the facts. We saved the personal stuff for the eulogy for the folks who came to the memorial service. I think if we lived in only one town it would have been done differently.
ReplyDeletePat, you raise such an interesting point. How you do an obituary is really up to each family. I wrote a very personal one for my parents for the town where we have all lived for many years. For other papers, I treated it like a death notification so people would know about their deaths and so they would know where and when the services would be. For my grandson who only lived a day, I wrote a small paragraph acknowledging who he was and who his family was. There was no other notification because the burial was heartbreaking and private.
DeleteI just saw this, Gerri. What a sad assignment, to write an obit for the too short life of a loved one.
DeleteGerri, I went to your website, and I see that we are “almost” neighbors. I’m in Milford. Ridgefield is a lovely town!
ReplyDeleteAlmost ever since I could read, I’ve been reading obituaries. I can still tell you which page they were on in my hometown newspaper. I don’t know why I had a fascination with obituaries, but I think I could detect stories in them, even as a child. For many years I had a job that required me to read obituaries, and I’ve never stopped. I do most of that reading on line now. When my dad died, and later on my mom, the funeral director wrote the obituaries, with input from family. And this was two different funeral homes, as my mom moved to another town a few years after my dad died. When my sister died a few years ago, another sister and I wrote the obituary. She had been sick for a very long time, between mental illness and MS. We wanted the obituary to reflect her accomplishments and interests, to bring out the parts of her life that were normal. A couple of good memories of her were included. We had it published in the newspaper of our hometown, as well as the newspaper in the area where she spent the last few years of her life.
I like cemeteries, too. When I was a freshman in college, I lived across the street from a cemetery. I always wanted to go for a walk there, but there was just never any time.
I’m going to look for your books.
DebRo
Hi Neighbor! Curious to know what job you had that required you to read obituaries. If you're curious, l like me, and it sounds like you are, you like knowing what others are doing with their lives. Our funeral home director does a very nice job with obituaries. Still, I'm partial to the more personal approach whenever it makes sense. Sounds like in your sister's case it was a nice way to remind people of all the good things, rather than the challenges. BTW, I've been to Milford a number of times. I take FEMA classes at your FD on occasion because I work with our Office of Emergency Management. Nice town. Nice people
DeleteCongratulations, Gerri, on your upcoming second book’s publication. I think you have hit on a great foundation for your series as we all will have to face death in some form in our lives. Obituaries are a gentle way of dealing with the topic.
ReplyDeleteAnd you’re right about including historical facts in them. For years my uncles and father told me that we were related to a 19th century President (distant cousins, I believe), but I never found anything to verify their claim. Along comes Ancestry.com and the Newspaper service you can subscribe to and I discovered an obituary for some relative in 1890 saying how proud she’d always been to be a cousin of the late President! (Not exactly a fact but it does give me a path to investigate…)
I just finished reading “I See You’ve Called in Dead” by John Kenney about an obituary writer. It’s not a mystery, but I highly recommend it for the humor and thought-provoking story. — Pat S
Your ancestry story reminds me of the story my husband tells. During COVID he took an ancestry class and the instructor wouldn't let them depend on family stories. Only fact which starts with the census. He learned a lot. My character uses obituaries as a way to find out something about the other characters in the book. Now I'm heading straight to my books store to search for "I See You've Called in Dead." Thank you for the tip.
ReplyDeleteHi Gerri! What a fascinating premise for a mystery series--so many things I never thought about! And it sounds like you have just the right combination of humor and empathy. I'm looking forward to reading your books.
ReplyDeleteThanks Deborah. It's an interesting thing to write about and I learn something every day.
DeleteGerri - I'm so glad to see that your second book is coming out! I'm a retired Ridgefield teacher, who has read your reporting for a long time. I've moved to Ohio, and have a very dear "sister" who once lived on Mamonasco when she was teaching, so your novel was a great reminder of happy days and youth for both of us! Keep going.
ReplyDeleteWow Jan, small world. Where did you teach--maybe you had my kids? So glad my book brings back good memories. I'm sure your sis will have tons of insight. It's so nice to hear from a fellow Ridgefielder (once a Ridgefielder -- always a Ridgefielder, right?)
DeleteHi Gerri! Congratulations on your series. I look forward to reading them. My sisters and I worked hard on obituaries for our parents. It feels like a very important piece of the mourning/transition process. We also felt it was important to speak about mom and dad during their memorial services, and put a lot of thought into our remarks. I often read obituaries because I'm curious about people's lives.
ReplyDeleteSo Deborah's comment sat in never never land while I travelled through dead zones today and now showed up as a reply to your note. What a world. Anyway, Gillian, I love your name because it is my daughter's name. And yes, you are so right--obituaries can be cathartic. And interesting. I hope you enjoy my books as much as I've enjoyed writing them.
DeleteThank you Deborah. Hope you like Winter Snow!. It has been fun writing the books and you are right. It’s all about balance.
ReplyDeleteGerri - what a wonderful way to help families capture and remember such memories. I will certainly check out your books as my husband wrote a column for our local newspaper called “Out and About” which shared the stories of many unsung heroes as well as just interesting characters. When the paper eliminated most of their employees, he found a new venue for his talent and now creates every other week a new TV show for our local cable access station. It is called “Pete on the Street” and has made him a legend in many adjacent communities, too. I am his director with the responsibility of locating people and topics as well as researching the details to get him started. My background is marketing and he is the on camera personality. Capturing these memories is so important! Thank you for what you do, too!
ReplyDeleteYour husband's job as a columnist sounds very much like one of my early jobs. I wrote something called "Around Town" writing about the people, places, or whatever popped into my brain. My granddaughter took videos of a number of places in my book and posted on social media, but that is nothing compared to what your husband is doing. I personally love highlighting everyday people doing everyday things. I'm going to search for Pete on the Street.
DeleteHey all, I had fun talking to you today. Don't hesitate to reach out with any thoughts, ideas or conversation. I love hearing from everyone. Thank you so much to the amazing Jungle Red Writers and especially Hallie Ephron for hosting me. Do something fun for yourself tomorrow. You deserve it. And a big clap for. Jungle Red Writers.
ReplyDeleteWarm Regards, Gerri